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...but Leon and I have split up. He 'dumped' me at around 9am this morning whilst I was at work and has made it clear that there's no hope for us now. I'm sad as I've spent my whole adult life with him, and 5 and a half years of my life. I am still in Canterbury for now, we have to have a talk about things like me moving out of his parents house. I think I'll end up at my Mums sleeping on the floor for the moment.

I suppose we just weren't meant to be.

Sad Poppet x :(

Decision made for you Poppet.

Sad maybe, but onwards and upwards!!

Your whole adult life?  You've only just started :)

Sad times but for the best in the long run

What I meant was I've never been a single adult, it's a strange feeling already

Your whole adult life is only 1 year lol

Enjoy it :)

poppet - splitting up is shit and you will have a whole lot of crap going on inside

but take it as a positive and use it to motivate you to get on in life both personally and professionally...use the feelings.

start of a new day and a new chance

Good luck Poppet.

You have a lot going for you and I'm sure you will be just fine.

Good luck Poppet , your a lovely girl and will bounce back   :)

all the best Poppet, don't be sad for too long, you've got so much more to look forward to.

Don't judge everybody else on yer own maturity Mikky!!!

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good luck Poppet

p.s (don't rush into anything!)

p.p.s (rebounds cause more problems!)

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those little steel ball-bearings were murder to find - especially on a shagpile carpet!!

more of a kerplunk monkey myself............

Poppet

Having only met you briefly on a couple of occasions I can only go on what I've read from you on here.  However, I think that in the long run this will prove to be a blessing in disguise for you as it'll give you the freedom to make choices that are right for YOU, not for the two of you.

The early days will probably be tough and you'll have a fair bit of getting used to things to do, but ultimately I feel that this is going to benefit you.

Stay positive and get started on making those selfish decisions that you've been putting off for so long.  There's only one person who matters now and its time to put her at the top of the priority list for once!

Take care.

Sheriff

I've spoken to Leon since and he has started his single life already, he is going out for a drink with the woman that has been the problem all along. So I've made the first move and started packing my things up, I'm going to go to my Mums (even though she is away this weekend) and try and get over this. It's broken my heart, but, I'm sure I'll get over it in time.

Rule #1 - Don't concern yourself with what he's up to. It's the motorway fast lane to insanity.

I was guilty of that just this minute. It's hard.

Thats the spirit. No words will provide you any comfort at the moment, because it will feel like your world is crashing down and nobody can feel the way you do. But, I speak for most of us when I say that we have all been there and we do know how you feel.

Depression won't solve anything and although its perfectly natural to feel depressed, you will pick yourself up I'm sure of it. Because you have to. Your're young... too young to be tied into a relationship and certainly too young to be in a relationship that on the face of it looks like its been bad for a while. You were too young when you started dating and you've spent the last 5 years with the same guy, theres lots you have missed out on already. So get out there and do something for YOU. Don't concern yourself with what hes doing, because hes a guy and he will be going to do what guys do. Thats a fact. So get out there and do what poppet wants to do - which is your next hurdle. You need to think carefully about what you want to do - there must be things you haven't done yet that you should like to do. Before Uni, even going to uni. You're a free spirit.

You should be relieved not sad.

Now get your ass in University and get drunk tonight.

Spot the theme yet poppet? I think everyone is singing from the same hymn sheet here! A blonde first surely :)

If you want some real words of comfort, just imagine that there is always someone else worse off than yourself. You glass is half full, and its up to you to fill it even more.

Just imagine coming home after a period of enforced absense, holiday, call it what you will... to find your partner gone, half your belongings sold or otherwise missing and nursing a rather large set of debts. Then you find out that not only have they moved in with another person, they did it only a couple of weeks after your enforced absense began. And never bothered to tell you. Although you had your suspisions, having them confirmed is still such a kick in the gonads.

Now take it a little further, and factor in 5 years of marriage, most of them happy, with 3 children to think about.

I'm not trying to belittle your problems because to you they will seem like two worlds have collided, especially at a young age. But in the grand scheme of things, you will bounce back from this a much better and stronger independant woman. As Arnie said, shit happens. Its how we deal with it than makes us who we are.

peace out.

I've just read that back to myself and it hasn't come out quite how I had liked! Sounds like I'm trying to say that some problems are worse than yours. What I was trying to say what that you should look on the bright side, be relieved instead of sad and take the time to reflect. Be glad you weren't married or, god forbid, had kids to consider too!

I'm not going to edit my post because you know exactly how I intended it to be.

I understood where you were coming from.

I hope you work things out at your end Mikky

I'll be fine Nem. Its easy to say "Im a guy I can take it" but that would be arrogant and stupid - just like most guys ;) Seriously though I'll be fine. And whats more, I know I have friends that I hadn't realised I had before which helped me. Its been 3 months now and its much easier.

Its not the first relationship thats come to a bitter end and it probably won't be the last. In the younger years things feel a hell of a lot worse. Learning to deal with things is part of lifes learning curve I guess.

micky may i ask you? your  enforced absense was it unjust? were you innocent of the crime?

poppet

so sad to hear about you and leon splitting up. break ups are never easy but get easier to accept with time trust me.

you're doing the best thing getting out as soon as you can because it sounds like leon is hell bent on hurting you as much as he can by acting the way he is.

be strong poppet and you ll be ok

paul x

Guilty as charged. Whether or not I think the sentence was unfair, I am not declaring my innocence. Its true what they say in jail however. Those who are married or have partners are doing two sentences. One physically and one mentally. You have to adjust your brain into a certain mindset, not just to fit in with jail routine, but to stop thinking about life outside - and this is infinitely more difficult if you have a partner to think about.

As to the crime, I have my reasons for feeling unjustly treated - however this applies to the incidents that led up to me being sentenced. It all boils down to the fact that if I wasn't caught driving disqualified I would never have done time. But there are other circumstances that lead to the rather large sentence that I'm not entirely comfortable airing on a public forum :)

Give it time Poppet...............just remember you have a whole load of people on here who care about you and will support you. We all know what a wonderful warm and giving person you are just from your posts.

The right person will come along and probably when you are least expecting to find them.

In the mean time get out now find a good book and lose yourself in it.

keep your chin up poppet. it will ease with time. honest! a broken heart is not an easy thing to deal with. ive experienced it but not in your circumstances. once the heat and emotion calms down, you will feel a little more settled. get yourself distracted and busy. did leon read the forum?


micky
i didnt know about what happened to you. im really sorry to hear it. are you still in touch with the kids? you dont look old enough to have a 5 year marriage

this man talks sense!!

I'm fast approaching 29 :) Yes I get to see the kids regularly, things are actually very good and amicable. But they have to be. It makes it difficult at times though.

Anyway this is poppets thread so enough about me hehe.

Hi Pops

Just to let you know that I'am thinking about you.

But at the end of the day if it wasn't ment to be better finding out now than in 5 years time when there are kids involved.

Take care
Shelly
xxx

Wrong time and wrong thread mate!

Poppet, do you remember everything ive told you over MSN in the past year??? - well now is your chance babe

thinking about you x

Eh?

Your comment had poor timing mate, i dont think Poppet wanted to hear you joke about her at that point mate.

At the end of the day your young, and life aint ended coz of some guy, it takes time but you will get over it, when you realise there is more to life that Leon.

I just hope its for good this time, coz going back will show him he can do what he wants to you, and you will still be there.

Been there done that, and have just reciently learned my lesson!

1) I wasn't joking, adult life starts at 18. 2) I don't think poppet would have minded..........

Aw Sophie.  You will feel like shit for a while, and although it might not feel like it now it will get easier, and quicker than you might think too.  Feel free to ignore my advice if you want, because it's just that, but for the record here it is:

Don't even think about starting another relationship for six months.

And, if you think now that splitting is the right thing for you (which I'm guessing is the case from recent posts), don't be tempted to take him back in a few weeks when you are both feeling lonely.

No worries mate, maybe she was to upset to reply and tell you, i just felt it was wrong timing.

Dont worry about it, she know knows you were only trying to cheer her up

Sophie,

It really helps to go and join a rambling, climbing club etc. I know it seems odd but you spend a whole day with people and go and do outdoorsy type things and it really helps you to take you mind off of it.

I hope you go to uni, i went 7 years ago and i'm still here.

James

It's ok, I didn't take offence to it. :)

took the words straight from my mouth this happend to me about 3 months ago not easy but life must go on :)

 hi poppet ,

 i know we dont really know each other but i just want to give you some support at this difficult stage of your life.

 i understand how you are feeling and know breakups are mental torture

 my advice would be to get out and find yourself

 if you are going to uni that will do you the world of good , youll meet lots of new friends and have the time of your life

 and you wont be tied down during this time

 i know your only 19 but that dont matter ,   im 22 and have been in a relaionship for  years and have a 1 yr old son

 believe me , you will enjoy your freedom , and you have plenty of time ahead of you for relationships and stuff

 ps we are always here for you here on blonde

 keep your chin up and all the best babes

 

I'm sorry to hear that sophie but quite simply if any guy doesnt know how lucky he is to have someone like you...hell, i'd be exstatic and shouting it from the roof tops. the next couple of months are going to be tough. when i found out that my wife was seeing someone from work and that I had recently paid for them to go see a couple of concerts i went a bit screwy. my family thought i had turned to drink and drugs due to looking so thin and pale but the fact of the matter was i could only afford to eat ready brek morning, noon and night. my friends saw what was happening and picked me up and boosted my ego and then found happiness once more. what i'm trying to say is that no matter how bleak things look, you'll always have friends around that love you and will look after you even when you can not do that yourself. you have tons of friends of here and we all love you. we are all hear if you need to talk, to laugh and to smile and to realise that....the b*stard just aint worth it x

Thanks again for all your kind words and good advice. It really helped me yesterday knowing I had friends to support me, otherwise I would've been in a very dark place. Thank you to all for taking the time to reply to me, itmeans a lot.

I'm now at my Mums, being my own boss for once! I already feel much better for it.

Love Poppet x

Good luck poppet

good for you!!!! best foot forward poppet and head up!

Hiya Poppet, Just wanted to say I feel for you hun, it is a horrible thing to go through especially after such a long relationship but you will feel better in time and remember you are better off without him. Like others have suggested try and keep your mind occupied, don't sit about indoors by youself if you can help it.
All the best for the future hun, Jay

Yes, its me, Leon!

Hi all!

Eventually i became a member of 'blonde', whether i be welcome or not, i come in peace.

Sounds silly i know.

I just thought I'd say my piece on the subject.

Soph and I have been together for 5.5 years as u all know.  We have had good times and bad like we all do.  But due to a mountain of issues that escalated recently, many not mentioned on this board, we have decided to take a break.  I am not going to bore u all with my side of things since this is not a war, but a break up between Soph and I on good terms. 

I appreciate all your gestures and pieces of advice to Sophie as you ALL have been one of her main pillars of support during this difficult time.  I know its hard for both of us, but at the end of the day, our intentions were good in that we both saw it to be the best thing to do. 

Who knows what the future holds?

"Soph, I love you, and will always be here for u.  I wish you all the best over the next few weeks, and the furore to come no matter what life direction u take.  Just make sure its the right one, and your happy.  You are a good girl with a positive attitude, sensible approach and brains to make you stinkin rich, be good.  I love you.

with my very best wishes, love, cuddles and kisses.

Leon x x x

Good man Leon!

Breaking up is hard, it doesn't have to be nasty.

Leon

Nobody knows the full story about what we have been through over the years, so they can't judge you based on what I have said, neither of us are perfect, and neither of us are fully to blame, in fact, I'd say I was to blame by about 80/20.

I appreciate the sensible post, I'm sure people will realise that you are a lovely guy, but sometimes people change and drift apart and all the little problems turn into something huge.

Take care and enjoy the forum

Sophie x

classy post L3on.. welcome

Hi Leon and welcome to blonde.

There is no reason why you should feel unwelcome here as Im sure many other will say the same.

It was a pleasure to meet you at BB3 and you seem like a lovely guy.

Nobody here has said anything bad about you, we are only offering our support to Sophie at a turning point in both your lives.

I am sure I speak for most of the forum in wishing you both happiness in the future whatever path you both take.

Thank u!!

Brought a tear to my eye reading that = soppy me!!

thank u for all your support for both Soph and I.

It means alot to the both of us x

I can't wait for more Poppet and Leon news.  It's better than anything on the TV.

I fancy an Eastenders style Christmas reconciliation.   ;)

Seriously though, good luck to you both.