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Sometimes we lose perspective.  See last nights rant about Leeds and my on going boring blah blah blah about women and the rights I selectively chose to fight for.

Today brought me down to earth and made me realize that to some things are hugely important to others not.

My daughter is in hospital standard SLE flare up, so we think.  Today 2 weeks later Im expecting to bring her home.

Bang biopsy Kidney results come back.

Kendra is in stage 4 Lupus Nephritis, she is extremely ill.  She is starting Chemotherapy on Monday her Kidney Consultant and Rheumotologist are new to us as she is no longer treated as a child, at 17 the NHS make her an adult.  She is still my baby.

We listen to what the specialists have to say I sob my heart out the whole way through.   Kendra says come on mum there a people worse off.   

The specialist carries on, I explain I am scheduled in London for more surgery August 8th, your not cancelling mum we ll manage we always do.   The surgeon says there is no need  and my MUM is with out doubt the most supportive best friend anyone could have and Clive is the greatest man in the world.  So we will manage.

We know the side effects of chemo we have been here before,  but the point of my post if anyone actually gets to the end.

The Specialist get up and ask do we have anymore questions Kendra immediately replies.   

Ive qualified in a pairs golf competition and I really dont want to let my partner down.  It s only in Worsley but its sponsered by Ping and I would really like to win through to the next round.  Can I play if Im okay even if you only give me like a day pass.

The doctors looked at one another and said Kendra if you have decided you can do it, we believe you can go and give it your best shot and take our good luck with you.

PS.   I NEED PENS THE NURSES NEVER HAVE ANY, SO EMPTY YOUR DRAWS OF ALL THE CASINO PENS YOU HAVE PICKED UP AND GIVE THEM ME     PLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSEEEEEEE

Paula

Good luck to you both, My thoughts are with you.

Me too, best wishes to your family at this difficult time.

Sorry to hear the news and my best wishes to you and your family.

Good luck in the golf :D

Sorry to hear your daughter is so sick Paula but she sounds like she has a good fighting spirit and im sure she will beat this. Good luck with the surgery and I hope you are both well soon. xx

Unfortunatly I can never find a pen in my house, why dont you give a couple of the big banks a ring and ask if they can donate some?

It sounds like there are a lot strong women in your family.

Good luck with everything.

Paula, you are so right, it does bring our problems into perspective. Fingers crossed for you and yours.

Many Thanks for all your kind words and the PMs no need for you all to go off stealing casino pens I have someone who is kind enough to help.

Paula x

All the best to you & your family Paula.

Thinking of you Paula - all the best to all of you x

Such a traumatic time ...we face death in the face on a dayly  basis with a son / grandson who is gifted to the highest degree..with a normal life. He knows no difference, he does not know he is poorly ,,, here is a bit of strength .. I cant give you much as i have to retain some for my family...xx

hi paula, im prayng for her, hope u and clive can pull together and i know u will, to give her the best support ever. Hope all is well x

Thinking of you all Paula xx

Wishing you all the best x x x

Kendras a fighter she'll pull through, and you need to get back on tip top shape too
but i'm here for you all, you know u can call me anytime hun xxxx all my support goes out to you

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Your daughter sounds like a young woman with enough perspective to put us all to shame. I'm sure with her kind of positive attitude, she will stay well and get through her treatments fine. Get her on that golf course in her ping gear and tell her good luck if she manages to play  :)up

It really does bring things back into perspective.....We realise how small and inconsequential our minor worries are....

I hope Kenda (beautiful name) gets better, and she takes down the golf...

thinking of you and your family paula,im sure you will get through together.

FRANxxxxxxxxxx

Wishing you and your family all the best.

Thank you all again.  Kendra is 17.  I have decided to further this story, because she is home for the weekend before chemo starts on Monday.

I won my seat to this years world series, unfortunately due to on going surgery I was unable to fly.  Kendra started my poker interest after my husband left 3 years ago ish, at the time my elderly grandmother lived with me and getting out was difficult.  After Nan died the poker continued.

Kendra is going to go back to college after Christmas, subject to the college agreeing to her being home for the first term, she feels she will be able to cope using the internet etc to put in her assignments.

Kendra will be 21 the year I am 40 and due to the Betfred womans tourney my mum is learning the difference between a prile and a run through.  We will be  going to vegas in 4 years all of us to play the world series if it still exists. 

Portfolio is looking after us all and doing a very good job although he has drawn the line at the nurses uniform.

Medicine has advanced somewhat since Kendra was 10, which was the first time she was diagnosed and had nephritis in her kidneys.  The Chemo is done 2 weekly to decrease the side effects and hopefully after Monday we will know how poorly it will make her or not.  Last time she was very ill lost her hair and became covered in ulcers amongst other things.

Obviously at this moment our chats are very deep but this line stuck with me yesterday.

Mum,  you never know whats going on in peoples lives and whoever is running things upstairs will only heap on us what we can deal with, even the people who appear to be sailing through life will have a story.

Sorry after posting realized Porty was logged in and not me Paula

Whatever about all the medical treatments...the mind needs to be right or it's a waste of time.  Sounds like she's right where she needs to be in the mindset, so hang in there.  Will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.  xoxoxo

Our thoughts are with you

PERSPECTIVE

the headline says it all.,.,good luck to you all.,.,and god bless you,.,.,.,.

Kendra has learnt well from her Mum, who's led the way in the bravery stakes already.

It's not what cards we are dealt that matters, (we can't change that) it's how we play them.

It's not what cards we are dealt that matters, (we can't change that) it's how we play them

That is probably the most profound statement ever made on blonde.


Good luck Paula.  :respect:

Paula,

I hope everything turns out for the better in regards of your daughter. You are a lovely lady from the encounters I have had with you in the past.


And if you need pens just ask.


Rob

Good Luck to you and your family Pffa..................I've missed our little battles on tribeca, and please say "HI" to Port

Hi Foggy Ive missed our battles too.  Im still looking for a new home, but nothing is the same as your first time.


Took Kendra today for the first session of her chemo,  I told her Tikays one liner.   Her reply wait till I can play live mum,  I think Im gonna like that man.

A lady drove from the Wirral today to visit Kendra, I dont have much to do with Kendras golf thats my dads job.

The lady was head of the Cheshire Girls Golf association.  I spent an hour or so talking with her and how kind, strong, determined and lovely my daughter is.  How the whole of the County was praying for her healthy return.

I was brought up as a forced Christian and my beliefs changed years ago.   When nursing my elderly grandmother, I would read ppls tarot cards in the conservatory.  Often ppl come in groups and so whilst waiting ppl would talk to my nan who would tell them it was a load of rubbish. 

Kendra when asked will tell you she has no religion.  But the thought of lots of ppl asking whoever, all the blonde friends included in this asking for whoever is up there to give my daughter a break, made me smile.  The planners up there will get so sick of the nagging and give her a break.

Kendra wants to defend her junior championship title at Wychewood Park, Cheshire on Thursday.  She will tee off whether she finishes or not well we will see if the nagging works and Ill let you all know.