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Title: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: sofa----king on November 09, 2008, 09:39:38 PM
looking for sympathy???.,.,not really.,.just really fed up.,.i think as most of you know me,mel and niall moved to cyprus 16 months ago for a better way of life.,.,after sharkyshades sunglasses failing in the uk due to poor weather.,.,we said to our-selves lets get out of old blighty,.,start fresh new business.,.,new home ect.,.,well its gone a bit tits up and im so,so gutted.,.,
MEL my wife is homesick,.,.,and my son is a little bit too.,.,but as for me i love living in the sun so,so much.,.,i have built up a very good business out here with a fencing company and also importing vehicles out here.,.,.i am gutted.,.,but what can i do.,.,i love my wife and son so much i have to make sure of thier happiness too.,.,
writing this seems unreal.,.after our first year we had a vote and we all decided cyprus was still for us.,.,but unknown to me my wife was hiding that she reallly was homesick, but she kept thinking it would pass.,.,which it hasnt.,and she didt want to upset me as i love it so,so,so,so,so much here.,.,.,.,
i just cant see the the attraction for my wife to want to go back,.,credit crunch ect,.,our business here is doing very well at its so laid back and easy here,.,.,.,.
i am quite private when it comes to things like this as im allways messing around and or im ok its me james allways up for a laugh,,but mel said to write it on here it might make me feel better,,.,.mmmmmmmmmm not at the moment,,
i even bought them a puppy 3 weeks ago trying to make it feel a bit better.,.,lol.,.,.,and now we cant come back for atleast 8 months as the dog has to have rabbies injections ect.,.,so thats a bonus.,.,i been thinking if i buy a new dog every 6 months we could never come back,waiting for jabs lol.,.,.,

i think what hasnt helped is my sister who lives out here around the corner has decided to sell up out here and go back,,,she said this a few weeks ago.,.,.then my mum and dad who lives 200 yds away said we are too .,.,so i think this was the nail in the coffin for my wife to say to me,.,.,.
my sister been here 3 years and is single and LOADED she just wants a change.,.,any single guys apply here or pm me lol.,.,.my mum and dad are comfortable to and we look after them aswell,.,.they been here 2 and a half years.,,.my dad misses the wildlife in wales.,.,.,.,.,.

igrvh ihr gvi 3ri vpi rtvpi3 rpitvp3ir vciop vjjf vk fvj lrfv jfn v vf vlw lweflvv f vf iv i fv wf v fv,.,.,.,..,
didnt know what to say then.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,....,.,.,,,.,.,

im just so gutted.,.,its like the wind is out of my sails.,.,,built up a good business here ,..,.,now i have 8 months left.,.,i dont feel like doing anything,.,.,but then on the other hand it would be nice to come back with free money to by a couple of propertys as june/july 2009 they might be good investments..,.,.,.,

i am so gutted its not like me to be mopeing around .,.,.,.,but my wife and sons hapiness is very important to me
and they come first before anything,..,.,.,.,..,ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh well ive said it out loud and got it off my chest.,.,.,still feels like chit.,.,.,lol..,.,
it will be funny getting back into the live poker game.,.,.look out dtd,.,.ect.,.,.,.,
thanx for listening.,.,.,.,.,.mr sad man.,.,.,


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: pokerfan on November 09, 2008, 09:48:23 PM
Buy now if your definately coming back 3%ir buyers market and all that, sorry it didnt work out for you but at least you did it. my missus wont even leave this village ffs nevermind the country.


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: Dewi_cool on November 09, 2008, 09:53:00 PM
Croeso adref Iago xx


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: sofa----king on November 09, 2008, 09:54:23 PM
Buy now if your definately coming back 3%ir buyers market and all that, sorry it didnt work out for you but at least you did it. my missus wont even leave this village ffs nevermind the country.

thanks.,.,i suppose yes we did it.,.,but i love it.,.,easyish money.,.,great lifestyle.,.,i was just out the garden having a coffee its nearly midnight here and still in shorts.,.,

i just cant get my head around her being home sick.,.,i said go back every few weeks for a visit but she says she misses the whole package.,.,mad if you ask me but..,we are all diffrent.,.


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: sofa----king on November 09, 2008, 09:55:50 PM
Croeso adref Iago xx
i hope that dont say.,.,..,
i cant wait to shag you .,.,lol
whatever it says im sure its something nice thnx.,.,


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: Graham C on November 09, 2008, 10:04:10 PM
Sorry to hear that Sofa, hope you feel better about everything soon. 

Best wishes


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: Snatiramas on November 09, 2008, 10:09:28 PM
What to say....really feel for you. Could you not run your business from the UK with regular time spent in Cyprus to top up your need for relaxation in the sun.

Whatever route you decide to take I hope it all works out for you. To be brave enough to follow a dream is something I have never been able to do so I have huge admiration for you.


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: sofa----king on November 09, 2008, 10:17:52 PM
thanks guys.,.,,ive been thinking of running the importing vehicles still when back in the uk as i have learnt so much about it now,,and its a real good earner,.,.,but it will brake my heart everytime i come back here on business.,.knowing i have to go back to uk.,.,i hope she might change her mind when we go back to the uk.,.,you never know.,.,


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: marcro on November 09, 2008, 10:28:20 PM
Moving a family is always a lot tougher than it seems and being homesick for the first year is natural. 

You have your business and love the environment you now have.  Does she have any interests or hobbies which allows her to meet people?

I think that it takes 3 years to settle from such a move and that is a lot to ask.  This is from the voice of experience, I moved my wife from the USA to England and it was tough on her.  If your wife does not have a hobby/interest it will be tough adjusting.  My wife got into horse riding and this made a big difference.


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: sofa----king on November 09, 2008, 10:32:49 PM
Moving a family is always a lot tougher than it seems and being homesick for the first year is natural. 

You have your business and love the environment you now have.  Does she have any interests or hobbies which allows her to meet people?

I think that it takes 3 years to settle from such a move and that is a lot to ask.  This is from the voice of experience, I moved my wife from the USA to England and it was tough on her.  If your wife does not have a hobby/interest it will be tough adjusting.  My wife got into horse riding and this made a big difference.

tried that one and fair doos she has stuck at it,she joined a country club gym and goes 5 mornings a week with my sister.,.she loves the lifestyle here but just cant seem to settle 100%,.,.thnx for advice and thinking .,.,


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: RED-DOG on November 09, 2008, 11:45:20 PM
James. You know whats what, so I can leave a lot of stuff unsaid....

It's a tough break, but where you're missus and your boy are concerned, you have to do what you have to do, end of. (Anyway, you're never going to find another beauty to love you now that you're fat and old.)

Take a little advice from a fool. If you're coming back, do it with a good heart. Have no regrets. Worse things could happen, believe me.





Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: sofa----king on November 09, 2008, 11:49:23 PM
James. You know whats what, so I can leave a lot of stuff unsaid....

It's a tough break, but where you're missus and your boy are concerned, you have to do what you have to do, end of. (Anyway, you're never going to find another beauty to love you now that you're fat and old.)

Take a little advice from a fool. If you're coming back, do it with a good heart. Have no regrets. Worse things could happen, believe me.

how come you allways know what to say???
good heart no regrets.,.,.,
as to fat and old????well,.,ive lost 4 stone and im not 40 YET.,.,.,.,,hehehehehehe




Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: RED-DOG on November 09, 2008, 11:52:19 PM
James. You know whats what, so I can leave a lot of stuff unsaid....

It's a tough break, but where you're missus and your boy are concerned, you have to do what you have to do, end of. (Anyway, you're never going to find another beauty to love you now that you're fat and old.)

Take a little advice from a fool. If you're coming back, do it with a good heart. Have no regrets. Worse things could happen, believe me.

how come you allways know what to say???
good heart no regrets.,.,.,
as to fat and old????well,.,ive lost 4 stone and im not 40 YET.,.,.,.,,hehehehehehe



You've lost 4 stone??? Pfft!!!

I don't believe you.


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: turny on November 09, 2008, 11:59:27 PM
best of luck sofa however things work out


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: Dewi_cool on November 10, 2008, 12:00:18 AM
Croeso adref Iago xx

Welcome Home James



Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: bhoywonder on November 10, 2008, 01:19:51 AM
But a new dog every 6 months

problem solved


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: taximan007 on November 10, 2008, 09:02:37 AM
James,

Really sorry to read your post, as I really respect you and your family for your original decision to up sticks and start again, at the end of the day it is about you and your family's happiness and full respect to your lady for being honest enough to tell you of her 'real feelings' rather than keeping stum knowing how happy you are there.

I am convinced that whatever you decide to do you will SUCCEED, we have never met but you strike me as the type of person that will always do well.

I wish you and your family well and good luck for the future wherever you decide to 'lay your hat'

Taximan


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: sofa----king on November 10, 2008, 09:34:48 AM
THNX GUYS i feel a bit better today,it must have worked writing it down.,.,.,.,
i just still cant see the attraction back to old blighty.,.,i feel bad saying that as i know you are all very passionate of where you come from and so do i .,.,but mmmmmmmmmmmmmm


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: byronkincaid on November 10, 2008, 01:36:40 PM
Quote
my dad misses the wildlife in wales.,.,.,.,.,.


(http://www.phoenixcsc.com/image/BigEckShaggingSheep.jpg)

 ;kev;

there was a guy who posts on the motley fool forums who bought up a load of property in Wales during the last recession, I believe he was picking up 2 bed houses for around 10K and renting them out ldo. A couple of years ago when they were worth 80K he sold them all.

why not do the same?







Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: sofa----king on November 10, 2008, 02:48:27 PM
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my dad misses the wildlife in wales.,.,.,.,.,.


(http://www.phoenixcsc.com/image/BigEckShaggingSheep.jpg)

 ;kev;

there was a guy who posts on the motley fool forums who bought up a load of property in Wales during the last recession, I believe he was picking up 2 bed houses for around 10K and renting them out ldo. A couple of years ago when they were worth 80K he sold them all.

why not do the same?



dont forget we shag the sheep and who you eat them .,.,,mmmmmmmm welsh lamb my fav .,.,lol

as to the property game,,i dont hink its gonna get that bad in the uk???but i dont know will wait and see.,.,.is it really that bad???at the momment???




Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: DAN DAN on November 10, 2008, 07:23:13 PM
If it was me I think a month's holiday back in the UK at this time of year, reading the British papers every day would cure my homesickness and I'd realise everyone is only a flight away.

That's not for everyone though.  If family mean a lot then majority vote that no doubt took you away will have to bring you back again I think. 

A happy marriage is one of the most elusive things in the world and when you have that you could be anywhere. :)


Title: Re: im GUTTED,GUTTED
Post by: The_nun on November 10, 2008, 07:31:03 PM
Some friends of ours emergrated, they too felt home sick so returned for a long holiday, once they had been here a few weeks they realised that it was not what thier memories held and could not wait to return to thier new home. Not been back to UK since.