Title: My Mum Post by: Irishdenis on April 01, 2009, 01:53:46 PM Hi All,
I have no idea why I am doing this except to say that I wanted to go on record about what my mum meant to me. She died two weeks ago and I couldn't talk about it until now. On the day of her funeral I said a few words about her and someone recorded them. I thought I would just post my words here as a tribute to her and what she meant to me. Mam was born in Cashel in 1929… She was the second oldest of eleven children borne to Jack and Amy Whyte. She grew up in Gortnakellis just outside Cashel. In her early teens she had to leave school to help her mother with their large family. She went to England and worked in hotels in Blackpool. She met my dad John in 1956… They got married in 1959 and this year would be their 50th wedding anniversary. They have two children my brother John and me. We were brought up in Pearse Park on the Cashel road where they have lived all their lives. Both our parents worked hard all their life. My earliest memory of our mother was her working in McDermott’s fish and chip shop. She would peel potatoes in the morning and cook in the evening. At the same time she did house work for a number of families in the town. I never met anyone who would do what she did for us. During our growing up years our house always seemed to be full of Aunts, uncles and cousins. Our weekends were full of music, song and dance. Sometimes to the annoyance of our neighbours. The Kavanaghs must have thought they were living next door to a ceili band. We would set up a bar under the stairs and listen to the singing and watch them all dancing. In later years our mam worked for the sisters of charity. She would help to clean their house and cook the meals for the nuns. In later years she recounted a story of her first few days with the nuns. On her first day she cooked lunch for them and all seemed to go fine. She came home and told us they liked her food and had eaten everything on their plates. On the second day she gave them a little more to make sure they were well fed. Again they cleared their plates. On the third day she made even more food than before. However when lunch finally finished a number of the nuns were unable to return to their teaching duties at the school. They had to go to bed as they were ill. Mam was really upset that her food was not good enough. It was at that moment that the reverend mother explained to my mam that as they were the sisters of charity it was a sin for them to leave any food. During the 1980s and 90s our mam and dad were well known in Munster for their exploits on the dance floor. They both loved it and would travel the country for a good set dance or waltzing competition. My dad thought he was best but she always reminded him that she had taught him. Mam loved all her grand kids and great grand kids. You should also know she loved all of you to. Her neighbours in the Park. Her friends, and most importantly her family. She taught us so much growing up. How to cook, how to make a bed and how to behave. We hope we haven't disappointed her. I never knew anyone who cared about money or possessions less. Her only concern was that her family were happy, healthy and loved each other. She should have been a nun. She is certainly a saint to us. We miss her and we will always love her. [/b] Title: Re: My Mum Post by: kinboshi on April 01, 2009, 01:55:41 PM RIP
Title: Re: My Mum Post by: cia260895 on April 01, 2009, 02:01:00 PM RIP
No one can ever replace a MUM Nice words there Dennis. Title: Re: My Mum Post by: lazaroonie on April 01, 2009, 02:15:18 PM Ar dheis De go raibh a anam
Title: Re: My Mum Post by: Graham C on April 01, 2009, 02:18:34 PM Sorry to hear that Denis, lovely words.
Title: Re: My Mum Post by: outragous76 on April 01, 2009, 02:38:33 PM Many sympathies
I lost my dad 2 years ago and share some of your feelings/sentiment on the way my dad viewed family. Take your time to grieve, these things can affect you fundamentally as a person. Do talk to people, dont be frightened to speak about her now she has passed. Celebrate what appears to have been a humble, loving life, and cherish her memory with fondness. GL moving on - time helps. Title: Re: My Mum Post by: Acidmouse on April 01, 2009, 03:50:22 PM A lovely post. :)
Title: Re: My Mum Post by: Tonji on April 01, 2009, 04:36:04 PM Sorry for you loss Denis. A fine tribute to your mum.
Title: Re: My Mum Post by: I KNOW IT on April 01, 2009, 05:21:01 PM RIP
Sorry for your loss Denis Title: Re: My Mum Post by: Maxriddles on April 01, 2009, 05:41:43 PM RIP No one can ever replace a MUM Nice words there Dennis. +1 Title: Re: My Mum Post by: sofa----king on April 01, 2009, 05:45:19 PM what nice words,your mum would be proud of you.......wel done
RIP. Title: Re: My Mum Post by: Indestructable on April 01, 2009, 05:50:39 PM Sadly I have lost two relatives this week and to be honest I am struggling to handle it, but sure this doesn't even come to close to how I would feel if I lost my mum.
Nice words and thanks for posting. RIP Title: Re: My Mum Post by: boldie on April 01, 2009, 06:01:28 PM RIP..beautiful post.
Title: Re: My Mum Post by: celtic on April 01, 2009, 06:06:34 PM A great post Denis.
RIP Mrs O'Mahoney. Title: Re: My Mum Post by: LLevan on April 01, 2009, 06:56:30 PM A great post Denis. RIP Mrs O'Mahoney. +1 Condolences on your loss Dennis. Title: Re: My Mum Post by: Harmony26 on April 01, 2009, 10:55:41 PM A beautiful post.
Our thoughts, prayers and peace to you and your Mum. Title: Re: My Mum Post by: Harmony26 on April 01, 2009, 10:57:08 PM Thinking of you, Ed, and your family also.
Sorry to hear this news. Love, Peace and Prayers, Bainn & Harmony Title: Re: My Mum Post by: Hairydude on April 01, 2009, 11:05:55 PM Condolences mate- beautiful words
RIP Title: Re: My Mum Post by: Jon MW on April 01, 2009, 11:22:57 PM Lovely post
Thoughts are with you Title: Re: My Mum Post by: technolog on April 01, 2009, 11:58:38 PM No one on this earth will ever love you like your Mum and you'll never find a better friend.
Lovely post. RIP. Title: Re: My Mum Post by: xxMAIRxx on April 02, 2009, 08:34:13 AM Im so sorry for your loss hun. A beautiful post.
I lost my mum 2 years ago and it was like losing a huge part of myself, my best friend and my hero. Title: Re: My Mum Post by: biscuit898 on April 02, 2009, 10:06:23 AM beautiful words, it is great you have such good memories of her
Title: Re: My Mum Post by: Compo on April 02, 2009, 05:30:33 PM So sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.
Title: Re: My Mum Post by: madasahatstand on April 02, 2009, 07:34:59 PM My heart goes out to you Denis and that was a lovely thing you did for your mum and family by posting and letting us all experience a little bit of who she is. I say 'is' because she always will be :) x
Title: Re: My Mum Post by: Kev B on April 02, 2009, 08:39:36 PM Deepest sympathy, Mum's are so precious, wish mine was still here. After two years there's still an emptiness.
RIP. Title: Re: My Mum Post by: smileriraq on April 02, 2009, 09:37:12 PM sorry for your loss
Title: Re: My Mum Post by: Irishdenis on April 02, 2009, 10:24:15 PM To everyone a big thankyou. We all have to go through this and I wanted so much to honour my mum. It also made me think of all the times when I thought I was going to lose her. I felt terrible for thinking she could leave us, and when she recovered I felt terrible for the suffering she went through.
In the end as much as I love her I wouldn't change things. I miss her and I would love her to be here and to talk to her. But her suffering is over and if that means we suffer, it is a small price to pay. There is no right and wrong in our thoughts. Just an emptiness. Sorry again for the tone of my email but it hurts.... Denis Title: Re: My Mum Post by: madasahatstand on April 03, 2009, 08:54:36 AM Don't be apologising Denis, there are a lot of people who understand where you are coming from. The hurt and emptiness will always be with you in some form but you will get better at dealing with it in time. Don't beat yourself up at all and let yourself feel what you feel. Like others, my mum passed on a few years ago and the pain is still unbearable at times but I'm here despite it and so are you and the others who have been kind enough to share their own sorrow. Just keep going right now. x
Title: Re: My Mum Post by: DesD on April 03, 2009, 09:10:23 AM RIP.
A lovely tribute. |