could i ask for some advice please, a girl I work with suffers from depression. She has treatment etc and is comfortable talking to some people about it, i find it hard not to give advice etc even though I dont have a clue about the in's and outs of these things, what kind of things can i do to 'help' without isolating her or making things worse.
any tips are much appreciated as i think i upset her the other day... sigh...
Go to the library and get "Living with the black dog" ... ignore the fact that it says for "partners", it explains perfectly what to avoid saying and how to say the right things
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Living-Black-Dog-Partner-Depressed/dp/1905410107ty - any practical tips or quick wins, whilst i would like to avoid putting my foot in it ect i must be honest and say that this is somebody i work with and doubt i would get a book on the subject. plus my missus prob would think it a tad strange esspecially as she knows this lass and might think i'm after playing away from home!
In my blog I wrote a poem ... contained within are all things that people have said to me ...I suppose the worst one is "pull yourself together", I mean do people not think that if it was that easy then we would bloody do it LOL
The sky is blue, without a cloud
yet you long to be wrapped up in a shroud
can’t you enjoy this lovely weather ?
why can’t you just pull yourself together ?
Come on, for gods sake whats the trouble ?
why act like you are inside a bubble ?
wallowing alone is not the way
get up, get washed, ENJOY THE DAY
You cannot carry on like this
what happened to your life of bliss ?
where has that happy person gone ?
what caused it all to go so wrong ?
With all these questions in my head
you wonder why I’d rather be dead.