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61  Poker Forums / The Rail / Re: The Road To Recovery on: July 13, 2010, 02:36:58 PM
To be honest, I really couldn't give a toss about anonymous emails, they are treated exactly the same as the ones from Nigerian doctors and fund managers wanting to give me vast sums of money.

If someone is capable of typing and sending an email like that, then perhaps they need to think about their own mental state.

So case closed on that one.
62  Poker Forums / The Rail / Re: The Road To Recovery on: July 12, 2010, 11:28:33 PM
Just received the following anonymous email

"What the fuck is wrong with you, have you no pride? give it a rest with the poor little me act and either kill your self or just crawl off back to the asylum where you obviously belong"

Seems like not everyone thinks it is an issue worth highlighting.
63  Poker Forums / The Rail / Re: The Road To Recovery on: July 12, 2010, 10:46:42 PM
what you have to remember is that everyone is diffeent, and while sufferers share the bottom line diagnosis, their triggers and personalities are unique to them, so never make judgments and the most important thing to do is LISTEN.
64  Poker Forums / The Rail / Re: The Road To Recovery on: July 12, 2010, 10:43:55 PM
And if you really want a hot tip, be honest with her and say "I do not know nearly enough about mental health issues, but I want to understand a bit more, so if you ever want to talk to me about anything, I would be more than willing to listen"

An offer of support and a display of understanding (however small) is a massive help to someone who is depressed.  
65  Poker Forums / The Rail / Re: The Road To Recovery on: July 12, 2010, 10:37:12 PM
could i ask for some advice please, a girl I work with suffers from depression.  She has treatment etc and is comfortable talking to some people about it, i find it hard not to give advice etc even though I dont have a clue about the in's and outs of these things, what kind of things can i do to 'help' without isolating her or making things worse.

any tips are much appreciated as i think i upset her the other day... sigh...

Go to the library and get "Living with the black dog" ... ignore the fact that it says for "partners", it explains perfectly what to avoid saying and how to say the right things

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Living-Black-Dog-Partner-Depressed/dp/1905410107

ty - any practical tips or quick wins, whilst i would like to avoid putting my foot in it ect i must be honest and say that this is somebody i work with and doubt i would get a book on the subject.  plus my missus prob would think it a tad strange esspecially as she knows this lass and might think i'm after playing away from home!

In my blog I wrote a poem ... contained within are all things that people have said to me ...I suppose the worst one is "pull yourself together", I mean do people not think that if it was that easy then we would bloody do it LOL

The sky is blue, without a cloud

yet you long to be wrapped up in a shroud

can’t you enjoy this lovely weather ?

why can’t you just pull yourself together ?

Come on, for gods sake whats the trouble ?

why act like you are inside a bubble ?

wallowing alone is not the way

get up, get washed, ENJOY THE DAY

You cannot carry on like this

what happened to your life of bliss ?

where has that happy person gone ?

what caused it all to go so wrong ?

With all these questions in my head

you wonder why I’d rather be dead.
66  Poker Forums / The Rail / Re: The Road To Recovery on: July 12, 2010, 10:29:58 PM
could i ask for some advice please, a girl I work with suffers from depression.  She has treatment etc and is comfortable talking to some people about it, i find it hard not to give advice etc even though I dont have a clue about the in's and outs of these things, what kind of things can i do to 'help' without isolating her or making things worse.

any tips are much appreciated as i think i upset her the other day... sigh...

Go to the library and get "Living with the black dog" ... ignore the fact that it says for "partners", it explains perfectly what to avoid saying and how to say the right things

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Living-Black-Dog-Partner-Depressed/dp/1905410107
67  Poker Forums / The Rail / Re: The Road To Recovery on: July 12, 2010, 10:27:18 PM
How is some that is truly depressed able to put on such a happy front? And what makes them want to do that?

General question obv.

Because it is a persona, a public face that you put on, you want to appear to be the person that you really want to be, you feel inadequate as you are so you over compensate and become the joker ... that is me by the way, other people will adapt a "front" that disguises their issues ... everyone is different.

Behind my mask I am a very insecure, self concious person with incredibly low self esteem ... so to mask that I give the false impression that I am exactly the opposite, which while it may fool other people, it also makes you worse in yourself as when you are alone you sink into depression as the mask slips.

Not sure if that makes any sense, i don't think I have explained it very well.
68  Poker Forums / The Rail / Re: The Road To Recovery on: July 12, 2010, 10:14:03 PM
Yup Tank is spot on, the trouble with mental illness is that the sufferer doesnt know he/she has it until they reach the bottom (unless they have been diagnosed prior and are able to recognise symptoms of a relapse) .. so if the person afflicted doesn't know they are ill. how the hell is anyone else in their close circle... to them it will appear as if the sufferer is being a lazy person and has lost all interest in themselves as well as people who are close to them.

It is a shitty illness to suffer from, but it must be hell for someone who lives with a sufferer. The upside is that there is plenty of support out there for carers/partners etc. but it doesnt land in your lap, you have to seek it out ... and often by the time someone is diagnosed with an illness it is too late to save any relationships as too much damage is done.

My illness has cost me plenty, but I have managed to maintain a relationship with both of my boys which is more than enough for me to feel that I have not lost everything in my life.
69  Poker Forums / The Rail / Re: The Road To Recovery on: July 12, 2010, 07:18:00 PM
1/4 will suffer from mental health issues at some point ... that IS scary.
70  Community Forums / The Lounge / Re: Album Recommendation on: July 12, 2010, 04:58:12 PM
Ther cover of the dead kennedys "Too drunk to f***" is just genius !!

71  Community Forums / The Lounge / Re: Album Recommendation on: July 12, 2010, 04:29:39 PM
Just home having purchased the CD, first CD I have bought in years ... usually just nick them off the web, but this one is worth paying for ... LOVE IT !
72  Community Forums / The Lounge / Re: Happy Birthday Sheriff Fatman, MPOWER & busbybhoy!!! on: July 12, 2010, 09:08:48 AM
73  Community Forums / Betting Tips and Sport Discussion / Re: So, this is what it feels like? on: July 11, 2010, 10:28:02 PM
UL boldie Sad
74  Community Forums / Betting Tips and Sport Discussion / Re: So, this is what it feels like? on: July 11, 2010, 09:33:00 PM
I fear the worst for the final, both teams will be shitting bricks and it could just turn out to be the dullest final ever.

It's all gonna come down to who bottles it the least imo, I go for the Dutch in extra time.

First line is correct, I bet boldie wants the second bit to come good Smiley
75  Community Forums / The Lounge / Re: Nit thread, a thread for Nits. on: July 11, 2010, 01:36:03 PM
Fabulous bakin boys choccy cupcakes half price in the Co-op Smiley
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