10 years ago...

[ruthless1]

20 years ago would be a good thread! Love the 80's

[Colchester Kev]

I was 9 years old and living with my Dad, had just moved out of my Mums because she used to be an alcoholic and beat me. Had just moved schools and I remember being in year 5 and being a tree in the school play! I also lived with my aunt for a while, my Dad couldn't look after me because he worked nights as a cab driver, so I spent a lot of time with my cousin Anona.

Don't know what else I was up to, can't remember much about that time of my life... It was an unhappy time though.

Out of curiosity, why would you advertise that?

Maybe because poppet wanted to be open and honest and just maybe by writing it, it somehow helps her to deal with it.

Just out of curiosity, why would you ask a question like that ??

[tikay]

I was 9 years old and living with my Dad, had just moved out of my Mums because she used to be an alcoholic and beat me. Had just moved schools and I remember being in year 5 and being a tree in the school play! I also lived with my aunt for a while, my Dad couldn't look after me because he worked nights as a cab driver, so I spent a lot of time with my cousin Anona.

Don't know what else I was up to, can't remember much about that time of my life... It was an unhappy time though.

Out of curiosity, why would you advertise that?

"advertising" is the wrong word. blonde brings a lot of comfort to a lot of folks because they are amongst friends, & it's good to bare your soul sometimes. There is a great deal of honesty in here, & I, for one, love it, & I do not think I am alone in that.

[bolt pp]

I'd ask why wouldnt she?

It was pertinant to the thread, and i'm sure she knew it would be wll recieved.

She knows a lot of people on the forum,outside of it aswell, and felt comfotable divulging it ,in the knowlege that the people with whom she was sharing it were friends would treat it with the reverence that such a personal posting deserved.

I think you'll find that a lot of the posts on this thread were as brutally honest as poppets, such is the natue of blonde.

[I, Zimbra]

Sometimes a particular moment or period can be defined by the great highs you have experienced. It's just as easy for a moment to be defined by great lows.

Ten years ago was my first year of University, the first year of my chronic illness, and one of the most miserable and disheartening stages of my life. I have never before or since felt quite as lost, alone or helpless as I was, that year.

I am sure there were good times and laughs; after all, a year is a long time. But I don't really remember them.

(Incidentally, I am not saying that things I went through were worse than other people's experiences - after all, one cannot compare experiences in such a dry manner. What one human being can take on the chin would floor someone else.)

Better get back to looking forward... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

[tikay]

I think blonde means a HUGE amount to Poppet. She's not had the easiest of lives, the road has been bumpy, but when she found blonde, she also found a lot of soul-mates. They look after her, too, & so they should.

It's good to talk.

[tikay]

Sometimes a particular moment or period can be defined by the great highs you have experienced. It's just as easy for a moment to be defined by great lows.

Ten years ago was my first year of University, the first year of my chronic illness, and one of the most miserable and disheartening stages of my life. I have never before or since felt quite as lost, alone or helpless as I was, that year.

I am sure there were good times and laughs; after all, a year is a long time. But I don't really remember them.

(Incidentally, I am not saying that things I went through were worse than other people's experiences - after all, one cannot compare experiences in such a dry manner. What one human being can take on the chin would floor someone else.)

Better get back to looking forward... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

If you don't mind me asking, "chronic illness", is this something you recovered from, or do you still suffer?

We are finding out so much about the blonde "characters" in this thread.

Apologies if the question offends, or you do not wish to elaborate or reply.

[I, Zimbra]

Not at all.

I do still suffer from chronic fatigue and 'flare-ups' based around my liver function. The root causes remain unknown - but it has nothing to do with alcohol (I am not a heavy drinker).

[Poppet7]

I was 9 years old and living with my Dad, had just moved out of my Mums because she used to be an alcoholic and beat me. Had just moved schools and I remember being in year 5 and being a tree in the school play! I also lived with my aunt for a while, my Dad couldn't look after me because he worked nights as a cab driver, so I spent a lot of time with my cousin Anona.

Don't know what else I was up to, can't remember much about that time of my life... It was an unhappy time though.

Out of curiosity, why would you advertise that?

I'm sure there are good and bad times in everyones lives, and 1996 wasn't a particularly happy time but the few nice times I had such as the school play and my first holiday abroad were mentioned as well.

As other people have said, I don't mind sharing personal stuff like that on blonde because I feel I can be honest about things. I do have a habit of perhaps being too trusting sometimes, and saying more than I should, but thats me. Theres a lot more I could write, but I chose not too in fear of a response like this, I'm just being honest. Afterall, if I said "1996 - happiest time of my life, enjoyed school, great home life...etc" I'd be lying wouldn't I?

[tikay]

Not at all.

I do still suffer from chronic fatigue and 'flare-ups' based around my liver function. The root causes remain unknown - but it has nothing to do with alcohol (I am not a heavy drinker).

Thanks. Let's hope they find the cause, & thus the answer. Chronic fatigue is something that non-sufferers find hard to understand, rather like the cause of anorexia I suppose.

But you seem to have strength of character, which is a terrific medicine.

[I, Zimbra]

Not at all.

I do still suffer from chronic fatigue and 'flare-ups' based around my liver function. The root causes remain unknown - but it has nothing to do with alcohol (I am not a heavy drinker).

Thanks. Let's hope they find the cause, & thus the answer. Chronic fatigue is something that non-sufferers find hard to understand, rather like the cause of anorexia I suppose.

But you seem to have strength of character, which is a terrific medicine.

Actually, I have to accord discovering poker with a large part of the credit for that - if nothing else, it gives me a drive and purpose I didn't have before.

[tikay]

I was 9 years old and living with my Dad, had just moved out of my Mums because she used to be an alcoholic and beat me. Had just moved schools and I remember being in year 5 and being a tree in the school play! I also lived with my aunt for a while, my Dad couldn't look after me because he worked nights as a cab driver, so I spent a lot of time with my cousin Anona.

Don't know what else I was up to, can't remember much about that time of my life... It was an unhappy time though.

Out of curiosity, why would you advertise that?

I'm sure there are good and bad times in everyones lives, and 1996 wasn't a particularly happy time but the few nice times I had such as the school play and my first holiday abroad were mentioned as well.

As other people have said, I don't mind sharing personal stuff like that on blonde because I feel I can be honest about things. I do have a habit of perhaps being too trusting sometimes, and saying more than I should, but thats me. Theres a lot more I could write, but I chose not too in fear of a response like this, I'm just being honest. Afterall, if I said "1996 - happiest time of my life, enjoyed school, great home life...etc" I'd be lying wouldn't I?

".....Theres a lot more I could write, but I chose not too in fear of a response like this...."

And THATS the problem when folks reply without thinking through the consequences of their words.

And Poppet, there is no need to be defensive in your reply. Why should you be?

[Poppet7]

Just trying to answer his question. I shouldn't have to feel like I have to justify myself though, I could understand if I'd just posted it out of the blue, but it was in relation to the topic of this thread. When it all comes down to it, I'm not going to stop posting what I want just because one person objects.

...Takes more than that to shut me up

[ifm]

I didn't think he objected.

[tikay]

Just trying to answer his question. I shouldn't have to feel like I have to justify myself though, I could understand if I'd just posted it out of the blue, but it was in relation to the topic of this thread. When it all comes down to it, I'm not going to stop posting what I want just because one person objects.

...Takes more than that to shut me up

Way to go Sophie.

But you are still being defensive. Pack it up. OK?