is it wrong to throw a huge spider at the wife?
No
is it wrong to throw the wife at a huge spider?
Yes
Wimin is gatherers, innit, spend half their days grabbin fruits off trees and bushes while you are out clubbin mammoths. They is around bitey insects and spiders all the time, any of them could kill them, so freakin out, even at ones that present no danger, is good for your longevity and your kids.
/boring but true answer