Poker Playing Friend, (HELP)

[StuartHopkin]

I don't think we should be talking about Cos behind his back like this though.

[Longy]

You have to cut him off financially, as long as he can carry on relying on you to help him out he doesn't have to face up to the fact that he needs to get a job.

Yip.

I take he owes you money, just a case of working out how he is going to pay you back or swallow the loss. As you are just throwing money away continuing to finance this pipedream.

[dik9]

http://www.gamcare.org.uk/pages/phone_support.html

[pokerfan]

Barry's book might help.

[millidonk]

Is this another one of those 'my friend' says he has a rash on his cock and it stings when he pisses?

[BangBang]

Thanks for the advice everyone...

Lmao at Milidonk... No really is my friend, some of you actually know him.. But mentioning no names..

[youthnkzR]

Is this another one of those 'my friend' says he has a rash on his cock and it stings when he pisses?

haha!... on a more serious note.. i agree with the majority on this topic! he needs to sort it out!

[MLHMLH]

Difficult as it may be, tough love is required here.  You're not doing him any favours by letting this carry on.

[pokerfan]

Just fling him a copy of Barry's book.

[smashedagain]

Thanks for the advice everyone...

Lmao at Milidonk... No really is my friend, some of you actually know him.. But mentioning no names..

Errr just to come on here to say "sounds like me but defiantly is not". Almost become ashamed of my hendonmob.

You are a decent mate for chucking him a bone and supporting him but when it becomes detrimental to you and your family then it's time to say enough is enough. Helping him realise that he is no longer a winning player will be quite hard to do. Almost all gamblers with a problem find this realisation the hardest thing to come to terms with.

[Leatherman]

I don't think we should be talking about Cos behind his back like this though.

 

[prettygreen]

I wasnt aware that i was your friend. But thanks for the concern

[DaveShoelace]

Just fling him a copy of Barry's book.

Appreciate the plug but I think there are some deeper issues that need to be rectified before our book could help him. It sounds like his general poker game needs a tune up first, but more importantly it sounds like he has to get his life in order before he even considers trying step up the poker.

I think any attempts to improve his poker will only exacerbate some deeper problems he needs to fix first.

[jgcblack]

To be honest mate, I think you need to think about what you're prepared to do when it comes to crunch time?

I think everyone is right about "cut him off" but you need to work out if you can really do that to him?  When it comes down to it will you turn him away and tell his family?  It's some seriously tough love but if you can, I hope it will be what he needs.  Prolly talk to the gambling problem websites, phone lines as they will have better experience for how to do it.

Best of luck though, its not easy... the only people ive known with this kind of problem have 'substituted' poker with girlfriends or another hobby, but there weren't able to ever control their degeneracy.

just my

[BangBang]

All the advice has been much appreciated, just a quick update, I've spoken to my friends sister today and going around to speak to the rest of the family later with the support of his sister... We made the decision that he needs professional help so the whole family needs to be supportive... Not sure of what the outcome going to be but I'm sure it'll be better then what the situation is currently..

Thanks again Blondes for all you help and advice...