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I've been really overwhelmed with the number of messages of support I've had on here in response to my 'changing times' thread, and also the support I've had from my 'real life' friends and family.  I never realised how truly blessed I was to have so many people around who care, and it's only strengthened my conviction and courage to get through this.   I'd just like to give a special mention of thanks to probably my best friend that I've never met - bolt pp.  He gave me a call last night to see how I was and we had a good chat - he really is a great guy, and hopefully I'll meet him one day!!  Also to Kingpoker who has kept me amused on msn and made me smile a lot (and I know he'll sulk if I mention bolt and not him!!).  Thanks guys.

Anyway, I thought I'd post an update.  I've been staying down at my mum's in West Sussex for a few days.  It's great here - I have a large extended family and my mum lives with her sister and her husband, and it's one of those houses where the door is always open and family and friends are always in and out.  There's always a pot of tea on the go, and there's always about 10 people sat round the kitchen table.  I'm being force fed delicious home made food (I had rhubarb crumble and rice pudding in the same bowl for my pudding last night - what decadance|).  Just what I need at the moment.  I'm missing my little girl something rotten, but will be heading back home tomorrow ready for her first day of school on Wednesday.  Gary and I have decided to try to make a go of living under the same roof for a few weeks (but giving each other lots of space), as we do not want Hannah to associate her starting school with the break up.  One thing we are both agreed on is that she is the most important thing in our lives and we will do what we can to ensure that she suffers as little as possible as a result of the split. 

As for me, I actually feel really positive going forward.  I'm free to be myself now, and that's the greatest freedom one can have.  I might struggle financially, I might not get to go out as much as I would like, or play as much poker as I would like, but true happiness comes from within, and I think I'm well on my way there.

thanks again xx

Glad to hear you are on the up.

Always a cup of tea on the go you say - what's the address :D

That's nice to hear, Claire.

There's an old truism I always use at times like this.

Everything happens for the best.

And it does, life is like that, we laugh & we love & we live, & we move on. It's OK, you'll be fine. One chapter has ended, another begins - who knows how exciting that will be?

About 3 years ago, my Partner of 10 years turned up at my House - we were the happiest couple on earth, or so I thought - & said "it's over, tata". Just like that. I wanted to die. Total devestation.

The very same day, I was asked to do some writing for a Poker Magazine. And thus started a whole new adventure for me. I worked my socks off, it's the world's greatest painkiller, work.

Dave (http://www.blondepoker.com/blondepedia/blondepedia_view_player.php?player_id=95) Colclough (http://www.blondepoker.com/blondepedia/blondepedia_view_player.php?player_id=95) saw my stuff & said "come join me & get blonde started". Then I was gifted a TV Role on Poker 425, folowed by another on Poker Night Live. The very week they announced Poker 425 was to end, Sky approached me, "will you come work with us on Sky Poker". Then I got the Poker Week thing. Like 425, they sent me all over Europe, & to Vegas - & paid me! APAT too is stunningly satisfying, & now I have work all over the place, for lots of people, & life is grand.

Do I still miss Wendy? Of course I do, the ache never goes away. But doors close, & doors open. Almost always for the better. Life is clever like that.

You'll be just fine, & life will be hunky-dory, whatever happens, because you have backbone.

xx

PS - Watch that Bolty fella, he has a fetish. Hardcore Garden sheds.

GL with the future Claire

hope it all works out


Understand where your coming from with your daughter regarding school

me and my ex split the week before our daughter was just starting primary....awful timing...

but we both did our best for her as much as we could

she is now in her last year at primary and I couldnt be more proud of her

I didn't think bolty actually existed

lol - I think that was the first thing I said to him "you are real!"

Claire I am so sorry to hear you are having these problems at the moment. I never saw your original thread until now, chin up girl and think of your future in a posotive way.  What is meant to be will be and once all the tension has gone you wiill live again and enjoy all that life has to offer.

Take care x

My GF and I have split up too.

When do I get the call from Bolt? :)

keep going Claire ... it will all work out in the end.

Take it from one who knows ;)

Is his sarfffff london accent cool?

Nice one Bolt :)

hope everything works out well for you claire. x

Maybe you should make the first move?  I think he's shy...

He cant be trusted Claire, he stood me up at Romford dogs !!

hey i never got a call from bolt either.
.although i did have a nice pep-talking chat with Kev in Newcastle..but he may have been drunk so dont know if it counts..
your not alone hun,loads of us in it up to our necks.

FRANxxxxxx

You've blown my cover, im like the SAS of the moral support army!

ps- stop going to bed so early!

ME ... DRUNK !!!  ... I cant remember  ;ashamed;

 ;applause;

congrats on 11'000th post :)up

about a 1:3000 decent post ratio ::)

1:3000 ?? you give me FAR too much credit kind sir :)

Fingers crossed for you Claire, hope all goes well. Get a list of babysitters as there are some poker tables out there with your name on a seat.

byron: sorry to hear about the split. Again I wish you the best for the future and it's new beginnings.

pft - be honest - you would have sulked, wouldn't you?!  I had a nice long tikayesque nap this afternoon, so should be aviailable for late night chats!

Good Luck Claire. Hope all goes well for you.

hi Claire

I was left in a situation in 1998, my ex left me with £72,000 of debt and moved abroad with a new lady.  I had my son of twelve years o;d and my mother who was disabled. I didn't know where to turn.

However, after the initial shock I went to the local enterprise trust and did a business management course and 8 weeks later turned my house into a bed and breakfast.   

During that time I read a book by Louise Hay called you can heal your life..
It's an amazing book and will tell you it's ok to feel hurt, angry or anything you want.  I know you have a child to consider aswell, but you need to think of what you want for the future.

Be kind to yourself. then you can be kind to others.  It's only a suggestion to read the book,  know it helped me.

As most people know I just got married to Colin (Maccol) It was one of the happiest days of my life.  My son who is 21 gave me away, and now calls Colin his Dad.

I really hope you find the happiness I've found Claire.

You deserve to be happy.

be lucky to,

Take care

Terry (Apothecary)

It's always difficult to give encouragement to someone you have never met - but you can build up a picture of their persona on these kind of forums. I feel that you have the strength of character to overcome this and become stronger because of it, not in spite of it. You obviously have many many friends on this forum and outside of it I would bet. Stay strong keep the mentality that has brought you this far. You will emerge from this, not a better person you are that already, but a stronger one.

Síochán leat

Ger

At the wheel of your car?

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sorry posted in heat of moment.  thanks for pm's.

PM me if you need to talk ....

Ring me if you need to abuse a random bloke ...

but most importantly, try and keep as rational and calm as you can in front of the little one x

claire,

be strong and believe in what you think is right then things will work out.

most of all give your daughter all the love in the world.

take care

paul x

this offer only open to claw? :D

Never ends. Claire, slap him round the chops.

And don't forget, Claire, you are family.

xx

Claire dont worry about being single again its great fun i have been single for 37 years now never done me any harm (i think)

I've been single 5 years longer than that - all my life in fact. Life is good. I only miss one thing really.

i'm not worried about being single - in fact I am looking forward to it immensely!

you'll be right - the good looking ones are never single long..............

Ahem......

Sorry i dont speak jewish.

She'll be fine. Im gonna start a new thread where applicants on blonde can apply for the position of chief clawer!

I'll let your mind run with the responsibilities that entails!

KingPoker = KingPimper.

you are a cheeky so-and-so young KP.  There is no position to advertise - I have stocked up on new supplies from the, erm, single girls shop and will be just fine on my own for a while - certainly don't need the hassle of a fella for at least a fair few months yet!

There is a gallery section on the main site...........

that's quite cryptic but if you mean what I think you mean - :P

lol, stocked up on new supplies - pull the other one its got bells on!!

the only thing new you really stocked up on was a pack of 12 duracell.......... ;)

Aye, but not if you wish to be discreet - certainly not recommended for use on the train in rush hour!

 ;whistle;

well things aren't good here.  Any hope I had of getting things sorted amicably are dead in the water.  Just typed a long message, but it's really not fair on anyone involved to post the details on a public forum.  I'm just hoping things get sorted sooner rather than later so I can get on with my life, as much as I will be able to call it that.

I don't think these things are ever good but they get better.  Keep your chin up, things will improve :)

thanks Graham.  things are getting worse.  The rows have been constant today, and i'm not sure how much more I can take.  We keep misunderstanding each other.  If I misunderstand something he's said, I've apparently heard it wrong.  If he misunderstands something I've said then I've said it wrong.  I'm fed up with being shouted at and belittled and slammed down.  I'm going to start looking tomorrow for somewhere to go asap :(

I have 2 spare rooms..............

if you lived any closer I'd jump!

more casinos than corner shops round here lol

Missed that lol
Things must be really bad!!!
Seriously though if you can cook, clean, polish, wash, repair, pay and be quiet there's a spot for ya!!

sounds tempting, but I'll give it a miss thanks! :D

are you amazed she's giving it a miss?

It was the keeping quiet that would have been the sticking point I guess.

hush you - I can't hear myself jabbering.

u been talking to Bainn by any chance...?!

Seriously, thinking of you, Claw.  You will get through this.

thanks Harmony.  I'm taking my daughter down to my mum's for the day tomorrow, so that will be nice :)

Njoy the day  :)

Ooooh you bitch!
Don't worry she's too old for me :D :D

yeah - I'm legal :)

But not always eh?

You could always chill out with us in Ireland for a bit to clear the head...or fog it with our weekly pub crawls.  lol

very tempting.  I'm have decided to be naughty and get pissed in Reading.

Lol, nice one, I really wanted to say that but thought it would look like I was flogging the joke a bit.