How to handle a player who gets under your skin.

[Dingdell]

We did move away slightly from the general issue of players annoying us at the table, but there is definitely something to the idea of female players having animosity towards other female players.  In some cases the gender is the only reason for this animosity.
Anyway, must dig out my PokerStars top for when I play you next...

Agreed, I will - from now on - be imagining these female players with thick facial hair, BO and belching to make them more male like. Or in some cases this means they continue to look as they are......

[kinboshi]

We did move away slightly from the general issue of players annoying us at the table, but there is definitely something to the idea of female players having animosity towards other female players.  In some cases the gender is the only reason for this animosity.
Anyway, must dig out my PokerStars top for when I play you next...

Agreed, I will - from now on - be imagining these female players with thick facial hair, BO and belching to make them more male like. Or in some cases this means they continue to look as they are......

Do you have their phone numbers?

[Dingdell]

We did move away slightly from the general issue of players annoying us at the table, but there is definitely something to the idea of female players having animosity towards other female players.  In some cases the gender is the only reason for this animosity.
Anyway, must dig out my PokerStars top for when I play you next...

Agreed, I will - from now on - be imagining these female players with thick facial hair, BO and belching to make them more male like. Or in some cases this means they continue to look as they are......

Do you have their phone numbers?

Sorry - already given to Flushy...

[RED-DOG]

Sisterhood? Pfft!

Women need to be in charge when it comes to sharing what they consider to be "Their" environment with others of the same gender. Let them call the shots and they are all sweetness and light, usurp their authority, and they will scratch out your eyes and piss in the sockets.

Let it go Trace. Strap a pair on and ignore them.

[The_nun]

Tracey, Tracey, Tracey.

Over my knee pronto.

There are times when both sexes get on my tits. Just try and have a laugh with them, even if you can not stand the site of them, it usually works. Peeps with attitudes at the table are usually the worst players and are trying to prove they are good by acting instead of playing. Imangine yourself wearing blinkers. If that fails I usually respond to them nicely but really in my mind I am responding in a totally diiferent way in which I really can't type on here.

[FuglyBaz]

What about the person who decides to have a $1000 chip from the Bellagio as their card protector at a £10 rebuy?

That's deadly serious btw!!! Talk about 'my cock is bigger than yours' macho bs. And he was truly terrible at poker.

[ariston]

control it or be pepared to be pissed off with yourself everytime you knock yourself out of a tournament by making errors because someone has gotten under your skin.

a poker table really isnt a place for emotion (especially petty fueds) imo. If some famous bird wants to look down her nose at you then its her problem not yours. She's the one who has a problem and you should laugh it off. A lot of the female players I have met or played with are so pleasant at the tables (even to the other women). Maybe you just caught her on a bad day?? we all have them after all.

if all else fails and you absolutely cant stand another woman I would suggest about 60 gallons of jelly and an inflatable ring, blonde will be more than happy to buy the pay per view rights I am sure

[lazaroonie]

i dont get annoyed by other people at a poker table.

In fact I would say its the only time I dont get annoyed by other people.  When I sit down, an inner calm settles in.

[LeKnave]

i get life tilted pretty hard by a lot of live players.

but i hardly play live now, i just turn the ipod on full blast.

[Djinn]

This is interesting... if I can't control a negative reaction to someone round the table (and sometimes this is unavoidable), I just sort of mentally distance myself from it, saying, "Yes, this person is an idiot.  Yes, they are annoying and their attitude problem makes the game less enjoyable," and then pretend they are just a blinking avatar with the propensity to mouth off a load of crap in the chat box.  Regardless of whether they are male or female I pretend they have a round picture of Matt Damon from Rounders and a nick like UPayMyRent - just another player to be played against, judged only on the frequency of their actions with chips. 

About the other point, it's funny that you say that women players are more Attitude-filled.  I don't think I've met a female player that I took an instant dislike to, attitude or not.  I think until recently a female player had to have a bit of a hard edge to a) want to live in the poker environment, especially the live game and b) put up with the silly generalisations made about them - especially if they have a bit of an ego, as many seem to.  Let other players worry about the chips on their own shoulders, and just concentrate on the ones in front of them

[Claw75]

Thanks for the exclusion Trace

I've only been wound up by players at the poker table a couple of times.  Once was in a pub league game, and the other time was in a self-dealt jobbie at the Western.  Both times the players were downright rude.  I think the absence of dealers etc made them more inclined to carry on with the dickhead act.  In both cases I was talked to with such an attitude and sworn at and the atmosphere in general was sour.  In the pub league game I just left as there was no money involved, and in the western game I just donked off my chips and went home.  I play poker primarily because I enjoy it, and dickheads shooting their mouths off at me doesn't register as 'enjoyment' in my book.

Having said that, if I go to play poker in a nice establishment like Luton or DTD I know there's not going to be any behaviour of that type and I'm relaxed from the minute I get in.  I've never had anything other than an enjoyable experience at either place.  I'm quite friendly and chatty at the poker table, and if people want to scowl and have an attitude it doesn't bother me in the slightest, I'll just carry on being myself.  In fact, that's probably the best way to piss them off  

[Claw75]

PS are you going to Luton tonight?  If you are, I'll come along.  Point em out to me and I'll go and put them on tilt by being all nice

[stoneii]

In the case of JJ Liu, if it's not just a gender thing, rather an ego filled "star" it can be quite satisfying to constantly undermine someone who thinks they are a "face" at the table.  Things like asking the dealer, "how much did that player raise".  "What did seat X raise by", can slowly eat into them if they think everyone should know who they are

stoneii

[Woodsey]

Just hit them with your handbag

[madasahatstand]

Tracey

Something my mum would have said - 'rise above it' and throw those emotions out the window. If these players see themselves as having an effect on you then they have got you over a barrell. Politeness costs nothing but some folk are so much up their own backsides that they forget what daylight looks like. They are legends in their own heads and you should try to laugh at them rather than get irked. Easier said than done I know.

I've witnessed a few verbal spats at the live games but one I was involved in was horrible. I was playing at the final table and this woman's friend got knocked out but continued to sit next to her pal at the table even although we had a staffed dealer, he allowed this. Then they were both having a mobile phone conversation at the table. The final thing that annoyed me was whispering in each others ear and looking at me - after I refused a deal. It was all done to have a desired effect I'm sure and to some extend it did. I made a call to her all in and she said out loud 'you better not hit'. Given her play I thought she had nothing and hit nothing but I ended up sucking out on her on the river and she got up and strode out. I still felt pretty intimidated and didn't think I would have went back. Then I thought, nah that's what these people want and I dragged myself there the next week.

I've no idea if it was a gender thing. I thought it was more 'this is my stomping ground and I'm letting you know'. I think they would have done this to men also. They didn't come back the following week but 2 weeks later the woman I put out was there and I got talking to her; she was pretty pleasant and didn't curse and swear as much off the table as she did on it and certainly didn't behave like she had on previous weeks. I like a good curse myself at times but some people I've met on the tables curse every 2nd word. The older players I've met never swear at the table and I respect that much more. Bring back the old days with some good old fashioned respect! That's what I say Thanks for holding the door open

Back to the women you have taken a dislike to - they are most likely jealous of you and your social abilities and as people have said - up their own backsides and need an ego massage. You take the attention away from them so they got to bring you down a peg or two (in their own heads). Just remember that you outclass them Tracey and allow yourself to relax and have fun as you normally do. Just be patient and wait on a good spot to bust them out Don't buy into what they are doing and try to see them as not important. If that fails, follow them to the ladies, accidentally stand on their foot with your stilettos and then they will have something to be angry and bitter about...hehe