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« on: January 17, 2015, 02:47:17 PM »

In the spirit of being an active forum member...

I was taken to Paris by my parents as an early teen and came away with very much neutral feelings. Underwhelmed and not at all interested in well...all that arty stuff. So when I went there a few weeks ago, I wasn't hugely looking forward to it. Yet I absolutely loved it. I felt it was totally wasted on me as a child and it was only now I was a (young!) adult that I could appreciate all there is to appreciate about it.

If it wasn't such a famously romantic and beautiful city, I'm not sure I'd have returned. Similarly with Museums and Art Galleries. I have very negative memories about being dragged around them as a child, so don't ever make the effort to go and see them now - however when I do get taken to one (e.g. Dad visited yesterday in Barca and wanted to visit a couple) I definitely enjoy it.

I feel like as a child, I appreciated being taken on holidays with sun, beaches, water sports. And seeing cool things like the Pyramids in Egypt or Lions on Safari (in before posh twat). But didn't ever appreciate cultural beauty. And I feel like most kids are similar. My brothers went on school Classics trips to Pompeii and Greece to visit ruins etc, they don't remember a thing except having a good time with their mates.

So my questions: Did you feel that things were wasted on you as a child? Do you think you only really benefit from certain things like beautiful cities, buildings, paintings etc once you grow up?

If you are a parent, do you take your kids to things they don't want to go to, but feel it's your duty to show them (e.g. tower of London), if so, do you feel they benefit from it?
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« Reply #1 on: January 17, 2015, 03:16:03 PM »

I think certain things you definitely appreciate more with age. 

It can be a nice city, a good meal, certain friendships etc. 

I'm not big on art, probably the result of being brought up in a working class family in an are steeped in depravation. 

I can relate to going to places when younger and not finding much in them only to go back later now in my mid 30's and actually enjoying them. 

Similarly when I was younger I never drank to be sociable it was always to get blootered, now I am happy to have a few cold ones (beers/glass of wine etc) and just watch the world go by. 
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« Reply #2 on: January 17, 2015, 03:21:37 PM »

I think certain things you definitely appreciate more with age. 

It can be a nice city, a good meal, certain friendships etc. 

I'm not big on art, probably the result of being brought up in a working class family in an are steeped in depravation. 

I can relate to going to places when younger and not finding much in them only to go back later now in my mid 30's and actually enjoying them. 

Similarly when I was younger I never drank to be sociable it was always to get blootered, now I am happy to have a few cold ones (beers/glass of wine etc) and just watch the world go by. 

Do you think there's any value in parents taking their kids to Museums or to cultural cities?
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« Reply #3 on: January 17, 2015, 03:24:50 PM »

Probably when I started to work. At that point in my life I suddenly had far less free time so started to think more about what I wanted to do with that spare time to enjoy it to the max.

Can't say we did a ton of stuff when we were kids, my parents had a busy restaurant and I was away at boarding school for probably 75% of the year. Went on a few skiing holidays, the odd day out here and there but don't think my parents were massively into the cultural stuff really.

FWIW I still think art galleries are shite lol...
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« Reply #4 on: January 17, 2015, 03:27:16 PM »

I think holidays were wasted on me until I was about 12. Prior to that I had been to Barcelona, Rome, Paris (for the Arc De Triumph meeting at longchamp, Venice, Scandinavian cruise and a few more all of which I have no memory of. The only childhood holiday I remember well is butlins! Money well spend mum and dad! Also obviously between 12-18 you don't really appreciate the places in the same way. I visited San Antonio Texas to see family when I was 12, wonderful holiday, remember it all but need to go back to experience it as an adult! New things to see and try. The next year we did Anaheim, San Francisco and Vegas but again places I need to see again! I have certainly scene vegas since but not the other two!!
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« Reply #5 on: January 17, 2015, 03:35:16 PM »

I think certain things you definitely appreciate more with age.  

It can be a nice city, a good meal, certain friendships etc.  

I'm not big on art, probably the result of being brought up in a working class family in an are steeped in depravation.  

I can relate to going to places when younger and not finding much in them only to go back later now in my mid 30's and actually enjoying them.  

Similarly when I was younger I never drank to be sociable it was always to get blootered, now I am happy to have a few cold ones (beers/glass of wine etc) and just watch the world go by.  

Do you think there's any value in parents taking their kids to Museums or to cultural cities?

Great topic of discussion. My mother always tried to teach me about the history of places we went to, and I would always drag my feet, moan, and complain. However, in recent years I have found myself proudly recounting the same historical stories whenever I go to them again (Just like she told me I would).

I also remember my old man telling me that I would like vegetables, and I disagreed, and he was right.

For me personally I probably started appreciating the little things in life when I met my now wife. Pretty much everything up to age 26 for me was all about getting drunk and trying to pull everything that moves. My entire life was built around going out at the weekend, so when that no longer was my priority, I started to stop and smell the roses more.

I consider myself really lucky these days because I really am happy to just read books, watch box sets, go for long walks with the dog and the odd meal out. If I can chuck a couple of trips abroad in there every year, it's been a cracker of a year.


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« Reply #6 on: January 17, 2015, 03:35:46 PM »

I think certain things you definitely appreciate more with age. 

It can be a nice city, a good meal, certain friendships etc. 

I'm not big on art, probably the result of being brought up in a working class family in an are steeped in depravation. 

I can relate to going to places when younger and not finding much in them only to go back later now in my mid 30's and actually enjoying them. 

Similarly when I was younger I never drank to be sociable it was always to get blootered, now I am happy to have a few cold ones (beers/glass of wine etc) and just watch the world go by. 

Do you think there's any value in parents taking their kids to Museums or to cultural cities?

As long as there is fun things for the kids to do as well.  I don't have any weans yet but would hope than if i have them in the next few years I'd introduce them to more cultured behaviours earlier in life.  

My personal view is kids learn more when they are having fun.  So that is why I'd go down that route.
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« Reply #7 on: January 17, 2015, 04:22:07 PM »

As a kid I loved the National History Museum, the Science Museum and the Imperial War Museum.  Would have been bored senseless at an art museum most probably though.  Someone who was into art might have been the exact opposite.

Same as if you took me to an opera or the ballet now.  I'd appreciate the skill and talent of those on the stage, but I'd enjoy a good gig from a band I like far more.  There are plenty of options, so definitely best to take children to somewhere that they'll be interested in rather than somewhere you think they should be interested in.

I still don't like olives or coffee, despite being told numerous times that I'd appreciate them more as I matured and got older.
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« Reply #8 on: January 17, 2015, 05:13:02 PM »

As a kid I loved the National History Museum, the Science Museum and the Imperial War Museum.  Would have been bored senseless at an art museum most probably though.  Someone who was into art might have been the exact opposite.

Same as if you took me to an opera or the ballet now.  I'd appreciate the skill and talent of those on the stage, but I'd enjoy a good gig from a band I like far more.  There are plenty of options, so definitely best to take children to somewhere that they'll be interested in rather than somewhere you think they should be interested in.

I still don't like olives or coffee, despite being told numerous times that I'd appreciate them more as I matured and got older.

I still don't like Tea, Coffee or Wine!
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« Reply #9 on: January 17, 2015, 06:06:37 PM »

As a kid I loved the National History Museum, the Science Museum and the Imperial War Museum.  Would have been bored senseless at an art museum most probably though.  Someone who was into art might have been the exact opposite.

Same as if you took me to an opera or the ballet now.  I'd appreciate the skill and talent of those on the stage, but I'd enjoy a good gig from a band I like far more.  There are plenty of options, so definitely best to take children to somewhere that they'll be interested in rather than somewhere you think they should be interested in.

I still don't like olives or coffee, despite being told numerous times that I'd appreciate them more as I matured and got older.

I still don't like Tea, Coffee or Wine!

Strawberry daiquiri though
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« Reply #10 on: January 17, 2015, 06:21:53 PM »

The museums are great, we like them, our daughter (10) loves them too. She enjoys the places we take her but I'm not sure she appreciates some of the things she sees.  My hope is that even though she may not appreciate it, she's taking it in in her own way and if the subject ever came up she'd know a small something about it and be slightly richer for it - even if she doesn't really care. 

When I was about 10 we went away with my folks and my Grandparents and my Grandad had just taken up photography.   We spent the most boring day wondering around some gardens, I can't remember where, whilst he set up the tripod, made sure we were all in shot, that the background was right etc etc.  That's me now.

I'm not sure what age I started appreciating things properly, probably late 20's, early 30's at a guess.  Most of the time I wonder at the beauty of nature or amazing architecture, things like that.  My daughter doesn't care.  One day we'll head up to the Science or History Museums (for example) and she'll realise that the buildings themselves are stunning and amazing creations or we'll head up to the Lakes and she'll see the beauty of nature.
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« Reply #11 on: January 17, 2015, 06:38:46 PM »

I didn't have these opportunities as a kid unfortunately.

However I did as a young adult, I spent 23 years travelling the world as a serviceman. Unfortunately I wasted so many chances to see so many great things as most of my time off was spent visiting the nightlife.

Certainly didn't start appreciating the things I do now until after leaving the service.

I love old buildings, castles/old manor houses that sort of thing and of course the great outdoors. Never appreciated them when I had probably the best chance to do so.

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« Reply #12 on: January 17, 2015, 07:19:02 PM »

Good thread  thumbs up

I always liked books and museums and art and stuff when I was young - but that doesn't mean I fully appreciated them. It was only in my 20's when I went back to the same places and re-read some of the books that I actually "got" all they contained.

The key to learning isn't necessarily fun though - it's just wanting to do so. A lot of the time for children that will be because something is fun, but depending on the circumstance and the individual it can just be things that are interesting.
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« Reply #13 on: January 18, 2015, 11:08:29 AM »

By and large, the older you get, the more you appreciate things, especially the small things that you used to take for granted, like waking up in the morning.

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