Happy Fathers Day to all you Dads out there

[sharpy]

  I feel for you Stallyon

  Been there myself, and it is really tough.Keep your chin-up mate.

  All I can say is just be consistant where your daughter is concerned, and you will win through in the end.

[RED-DOG]

The girls took my wallet and I out to lunch.

[charmaine]

lol


chillottes or shallots?

cattots or carrots?

mounge tout or mange tout?

Corgettes or Corgis or Courgettes?


Sounds grand though, quite the new man M3.

(Awaiting the dinner invitation........)

lol... love his spelling .
As for cooking today , bout time to coz the kids hate mine +

[M3boy]

When my fortunes changed, and I met Charmaine, Life changed so much and so quickly.

My son (Jake) used to come over every week end (once the dust had settled). This then turned into once every other weekend (for various reasons).

Now during that time, it was very hard for me. With other kids in the house, I could not treat him any different. But it was VERY hard. Only seeing him every fortnight meant he did get extra attention. But a point came when enough was enough, and I had to tell him off for something. Now this was hard as I knew exactly what he would say - yep you guessed it "I dont want to see you anymore" - The normal reaction for someone so young in his position.
Was hard for him to I imagine, being an only child, and coming to see his Dad who now had 5 other children.

Well that was the end really, except for Birthdays and Christmas - he would ring up out of the Blue and wanted to come and see me. Eventually this also stopped.

When life changes so much , it is hard. I have lost a Son, but gained sooo much.

I do not regret what I have done for a second, but regret loosing my Son every day.

I told his mum I am always here for him if he needs me, but as yet (3/4 years down the line) no phone call.

Now leaving it this long , I decided it would be better for him if I didnt contact him, and leave the ball in his court as it were. She has now re married and the new man (last I knew) gets on well with Jake.

No more to say really stallion, cept I feel your pain m8.

[TightEnd]

Being a non resident Dad is terrible. If that turns into being unable to see your children at all for whatever reason that must be almost unbearable. A few of the posts on this thread gave me much cause to reflect and I sympathise.

I'm quite fortunate really, see my kids frequently and am close to all of them.

However the experience of having to move out of the family home (because I agreed that it was best for the kids to stay in their known environment with their primary carer)  and go from seeing my kids everyday to seeing them intermittently on a schedule was one of the most painful adjustment experiences of my life.

I don't pretend to understand a lot of non resident Dad's losing interest (rather than being unable for whatever reason to keep contact) but recognise that the circumstances of each break up are complicated with strong emotions involved on both sides so try not to judge on a few superficial facts that I may think I have.

[Colchester Kev]

I was in the same position as many others in that when my relationship broke down I hated the fact that I didnt have daily contact with my boys. weekends were never going to be enough for me, so i took voluntary redundancy from my job as a sales manager and went for full residency (the new word for custody)   I was successfull after a horrible ,bitter and most painful court battle.

that was over 5 years ago, and despite all the pain, hurt and cost.. both emotionally and financially I wouldnt change a second of it.


It was the right thing for me to do at the time, I have learnt so much and gained so much that any sacrifice has been repaid a million fold.

[turny]

wish i didnt see so much of one of my sons as its usually over a poker table and hes taking my chips!!