My rights at work?

[Poppet7]

The vicky pollard stuff: I never meant for it to come out that way! I was just trying to explain things!

Leon doesn't read the forum and I will tell him what I think when we get a chance to talk properly

Poppet xx

[Claw75]

just a casual note poppet

the advice given by flushy is top notch...as was a few other points.

I know you open up here and its good you feel you can do that - however i`m just musing that it may be better to tell leon first and foremost what you are going to do....that way honesty is the best way...does he read the forum, will he read you post....if so he already knows what you are doing and thinking and he`s not hearing it first hand.

all the best with whatever you decide...

very sound advice. This is a public forum after all and none of us really know who is reading it.  I would never post anything on here that I wouldn't be happy to post on a public noticeboard!

[MrMoves]

The vicky pollard stuff: I never meant for it to come out that way! I was just trying to explain things!

Leon doesn't read the forum and I will tell him what I think when we get a chance to talk properly

Poppet xx

I only meant it in jest, Poppet.  Hope you didn't take offence.  Good luck.

[Poppet7]

No I didn't it's ok x

[Trace]

Wow. I go away for 3 hours and this is what happens, even though people are taking the piss out of you flushy, thank you for the advice! I have read every reply and you do all make sense. It is too late to start Uni this year, I think it's starting next week and I never bothered to sort out finances or anything because I knew I wouldn't go this year. It really isn't right for me at the moment.

As for Leon, yes we do blow hot and cold all the time, thats why I feel so confused about everything, we love each other, but at the same time we hurt each other.

I've had a long chat with Alexa this afternoon, she works for the company so she knows all the people involved, and she has said that she thinks its time for Leon and I to split, or have a break. I happen to agree. Leon will be home later and if he stays home I will sit him down and tell him that I'm going to spread my wings. I need some space, I can do my sort of job anywhere in the country. We have been together since I was 14 and he was 16, spent 4 years of that time living 100 miles apart and now live in a horrible situation, so I think we need to both be given the chance to 'find ourselves' and have a bit of fun. Then maybe, just maybe, we could work things out.

I really really appreciate the advice you have all given me, and I am thankful that you've taken the time to reply to my posts.

Love Poppet xx

Poppet,

I work in Admin in a University, my first years start on Monday (we enrol earlier than other Uni's).  IT IS NOT too late to start, you can still be enrolled and sort the finances out afterwards.

After reading everyone else's advice, I really do think that Uni right now, is a good move.  Phone up the admissions department and ask them if you can still take up your offer.  Go on take a deep breath and bit the bullet, the worst they can say is NO!  Their student services department will help you out with money until you get yourself sorted out with a P/T job.

We have students starting on Year One up to 4 or 5 weeks into the start of term.

Try it, what have you got to lose?

[Indestructable]

My advice would be not to quote names when posting about this sort of stuff, unless of course you are not worried if they read it. It will be sod's law that a friend of a friend will notice and get back to the individuals concerned.
Good luck with sorting it out though.

[turny]

poppet

its not fo me to comment on your personal situation and im not going to.
all i want to say is you have alot of friends on blonde so if any of us can be of help in any way just ask

good luck popps whatever path you may take now but make sure its the path you choose xx

[madasahatstand]

poppet
i don't think there has been 1 reply advising you keep doing what you are doing. i agree you should go to uni if you can. Scottish universities dont charge so why dont you come and find somewhere to stay up here? plenty of poker and nightlife and lots of universities. good ones too! maybe ironside would put you up in Aberdeen. its a lovely city. or maybe tank in Glasgow? who else has a spare room?....lol.

as for picking your supervisor, you cant pick but where it is reasonable and the staffing levels allow, you could ask them to review the situation. do this formally though and get hr involved.

its a very difficult situation you are in and you sound indecisive. no wonder! stress causes the brain to bounce about all over the place. you should get a day to yourself for thinking time. dont sit at home. go for a walk or day away on your own. take time to reflect and find out what you want. if you want to leave your b/f but feel you cant then try to identify the reasons why. if its about money then you are selling yourself out. you should be there for love and nothing else. a difficult situation for you all the same.

i agree with patman about the potential for leon and the folk at work to see your posts. if leon is a hothead and see's the post he could let the work see them and you have no choice about your job.

good wishes in whatever you do but i also vote UNIVERSITY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Poppet7]

I Love You Poppet!!!

Awww, maybe I'll come and live with you then

[turny]

I Love You Poppet!!!

jim d what a lovely guy!

was a pleasure meating you at the bash fella

[mikkyT]

Like wise mate,  Love the sense of humor,  Im hopeing to get to live play more so may be up your end soon

 

[turny]

Like wise mate,  Love the sense of humor,  Im hopeing to get to live play more so may be up your WAY soon

 


any time you this way jim give us a shout your always welcome to play (poker) with the itb guys

[Poppet7]

No poker in sunny Devon im affraid babe

I don't mind that hunnybunny! I'm more of an Internet Poker girl

So when am I moving in? x

[turny]

No poker in sunny Devon im affraid babe

I don't mind that hunnybunny! I'm more of an Internet Poker girl

So when am I moving in? x

oi oi lol

looks like you got a bunny boiler jim 

[Poppet7]

I quite fancy gettin myself a stalker

I'll volunteer