Is it not about time we had a female Moderator on board ?

[Colchester Kev]

OK... Not sure how to put this, but:

If

1. Blonde needs more mods, and

2. there's a person whom everyone agrees (including the existing mods) would be an asset to Blonde and a great addition to the moderating team, and

3. said person actually wants the job,

then

why should she be denied the opportunity based on who her boyfriend/husband/partner is?

To me, that seems... kind of, well, wrong. 

As wrong, more wrong or less wrong than picking someone to do the job based purely on their gender and not their ability to do the job ??

[I, Zimbra]

No, Kev, I said 'person' in my post, i.e. person who is generally agreed by all as excellent for the job - and who happens to be a woman in this instance.

[charmaine]

So men make better mods  

                               JOKING !!!!

[I, Zimbra]

I'm trying to imagine the gender-reverse case of this scenario; would a male mod-candidate be similarly blocked because of his girlfriend/wife/partner potentially having access to said 'secret' information?

[Rooky9]

I would seriously of liked to be a mod on blonde, but can guarentee paul would do his up most to sneak a look into where he shouldnt , other than divorce i cant see a way around this issue 

Password protected loggin's at windows level.

[byronkincaid]

under the data protection act can we send blonde a tenner and find out what is written about us in the secret room?

[I, Zimbra]

I would seriously of liked to be a mod on blonde, but can guarentee paul would do his up most to sneak a look into where he shouldnt , other than divorce i cant see a way around this issue 

Password protected loggin's.

lol

I was actually just going to say that, can't you just change yer password?  >>>>>>>>>>>> 'no secret room for you' 

[charmaine]

I would seriously of liked to be a mod on blonde, but can guarentee paul would do his up most to sneak a look into where he shouldnt , other than divorce i cant see a way around this issue 

Password protected loggin's at windows level.

He's way to clever for me , knows all my passwords , as i know his 

[snoopy1239]

So men make better mods  

                               JOKING !!!!

Of course they do.

[snoopy1239]

under the data protection act can we send blonde a tenner and find out what is written about us in the secret room?

It's gonna cost you more than a tenner to view everything we have written about you. 

[tantrum]

I'm trying to imagine the gender-reverse case of this scenario; would a male mod-candidate be similarly blocked because of his girlfriend/wife/partner potentially having access to said 'secret' information?

Nope, this rule not appplies to men, they keep secrets better.  Women on the other hand gossip too much, and usually when married won't be allowed to keep secrets from their spouses.

I think married/engaged or with the boyfriend woman should not be allowed to be a moderator.

[madasahatstand]

Sad that with so many woman using this forum they havent got a representative , if you know what i mean 

The mods represent the interests of all members of whatever sex. If a female member has an issue on the forum, this issue is always dealt with the same as any other issue.

If there is a lady who tikay thinks suitable then great, but if not then I don't think one should be appointed just so we can say we have a female mod.

We need more mods, I don't mind if they are male or female as long as they try their best.

without reading the entire thread which ill get round to, I dont think there is any way the male mods can represent all the female members on everything. dealing with issues in the same way for everyone is not good enough as we all have different points of views and needs/requirements.
i complained about something a few months back and one of the male mods told me there was nothing up with a certain image and that it was the kind of thing you'd see in teenage mags. i cant tell you how pissed off i was with that. i wrote to tikay and he responded promptly and agreed with me.
this means all the mods dont come from the same direction and dont have the sames views. now as a woman i was offended by the first reply. it was almost like i was being silly girl kind of thing. quite patronising actually.
my point (and im getting to it) is that one size does not fit all and thats a few times ive seen a request for a female mod. ive already nominated someone for he job. dont know if she is interested or, or has even been approached, but i for one support a female mod who is reasoned and can articulate some arguments from a different perspective, and on occassion, a female perspective

[Colchester Kev]

What has to be remembered in all of the thought processes in selecting people to mod is this ...

1, its voluntary
2, its thankless most of the time
3, its time consuming
4, its stressfull (at times)
5, believe it or not, we do have to discuss some thorny issues and on occasion very confidential issues
6, Confidentiality & discretion are 2 of the top priorities in any mods appointments.

Although we dont seek or want to be seen as elitist and superior just because we are mods, we have a duty and an obligation to make sure that what is discussed on the mods board stays on the mods board.  Now in Janes case, & Charmaines they both openly admit to not being able to guarantee 100% that any info on said boards would stay confidential, due to shared computers and the fact that their partners are also members of the forum... This is neither a slur or any misstrust intended to either member or their partners, It is just a fact that it would cause problems, and could lead to things not being discussed and worked out properly if people couldnt speak their minds for the fear that their comments would be seen by people who arent meant to see them.

Of course if either Charmaine or Jane would like to ditch their partners and move in with another mod... no problem ... In fact the weather is particularly warm for this time of the year in COLCHESTER

[madasahatstand]

I have to agree with Tighty on this, whilst it would be NICE to have a female Mod I don't think we NEED one (specifically female that is, more Mods of course are necessary)

I think if a sensitive situation came up that offended us Ladies and the male Mods couldn't understand for whatever reason, I believe there are enough of us that are outspoken and able to voice our opinions clearly that we could rectify the problem.

In other words, we don't need a female Mod to still be able to nag at the male Mods 

ginger i hear what you are saying but some people are offended and dont want to discuss it in public. i have been in that situ myself and went private with the issue for fear of being targetted as a moaner on the open forum.
ive written to charmaine a couple of times about things that have bugged me and got  very valuable support from her when i didnt feel i wanted to post openly. my opinion on the matter is i would like to see the right female mod, not just anyone

[charmaine]

Sad that with so many woman using this forum they havent got a representative , if you know what i mean 

The mods represent the interests of all members of whatever sex. If a female member has an issue on the forum, this issue is always dealt with the same as any other issue.

If there is a lady who tikay thinks suitable then great, but if not then I don't think one should be appointed just so we can say we have a female mod.

We need more mods, I don't mind if they are male or female as long as they try their best.

without reading the entire thread which ill get round to, I dont think there is any way the male mods can represent all the female members on everything. dealing with issues in the same way for everyone is not good enough as we all have different points of views and needs/requirements.
i complained about something a few months back and one of the male mods told me there was nothing up with a certain image and that it was the kind of thing you'd see in teenage mags. i cant tell you how pissed off i was with that. i wrote to tikay and he responded promptly and agreed with me.
this means all the mods dont come from the same direction and dont have the sames views. now as a woman i was offended by the first reply. it was almost like i was being silly girl kind of thing. quite patronising actually.
my point (and im getting to it) is that one size does not fit all and thats a few times ive seen a request for a female mod. ive already nominated someone for he job. dont know if she is interested or, or has even been approached, but i for one support a female mod who is reasoned and can articulate some arguments from a different perspective, and on occassion, a female perspective

Exactly what i was trying to say Mad