Are there any female players you admire and if so what is it about their game you like?
What makes overall a good player? Irrespective of male/female.
I think what makes a good player is having the intelligence and good judgement to look at and obtain the greatest possible information available at any given point and make the correct decision , based on that information, as often as possible.
Very often hands play themselves or you have little or no choice but one particular course of action but its the times that a decision is required that is important as that is the real skill in my opinion.
Obviously having the bottle to take big chances and make big moves can also be important but it is very hard to master that ability and many players just do that at random times and cross their fingers hoping their timing is good, in my view that method is more luck than judgement , even though it can also work.
In terms of female players i don't see the situation as comparable with "a good big un will always beat a good littleun" in that a good female player is of equal ability as a good male player, at the moment there are just a much larger pool of male players from which to find good ones so male players seem to be more successful than female ones.
UK female players i like include EPT winner Vicky Coren who thinks about the game and talks the game as she plays ( and has a sexy voice) and Lucy Rokash who has done so much for poker over many years and is fearless ( she doesn't have a sexy voice but scares the chit out of me when I'm at her table)