Parental decision

[DMorgan]

From the OP it sounds like your parental instincts say that its fine and that she'll deal with it responsibly but the social stigma about her age is the only thing thats stopping you. You commend your daughter for being single minded and not following the crowd so imo you shouldn't either

[Laxie]

From the OP it sounds like your parental instincts say that its fine and that she'll deal with it responsibly but the social stigma about her age is the only thing thats stopping you. You commend your daughter for being single minded and not following the crowd so imo you shouldn't either

Young pup says exactly what I was thinking...only he says it miles better.

[bobAlike]

absolutely fucking no chance.

Why not?

She's 13, she'll want to wear high cut tops to show it off, she'll realise that boys are attracted to her new look and maybe go further,  premature sexualisation of children is a personal hate of mine.

This is far to common nowadays. I blame the parents who are not strong enough to stand up to their children.
Don't let her do it George.

[LeedsRhodesy]

Let her do it! It's nothing, it's not like when she has it done he will change and end up drinking and having underage sex us it?

[Claw75]

My personal view, which I'm repeating from facebook, is that 13 is just far too young for body piercings, and if hannah asked at that age she'd just get a firm 'not until you're 16'. We're going through the ear piercing debate at the moment - I think she's too young at 7 but just shy of half the girls in her class have theirs done so I guess it's personal preference. I've explained my reasons though and she accepts the decision. Dan makes a good point though - if you were dead set against it I don't think you'd have opened the debate so just make sure whatwver decision you reach is one you are comfortable with. What does Mrs Bedi think?

[TightEnd]

father of an 11 year old girl


Simple answer. Way too early at 13. 15 maybe, depending on maturity, 16 up to her

[kinboshi]

You'd let her get her ears pierced at 13 though? 

By the way, I have no opinion on this as I'm not a parent and therefore unable to have a valid opinion on anything to do with children or parenting.  Shame the same doesn't apply to the catholic church...

[david3103]

As a dad (and granddad) I'd suggest that you do your best to discourage this for the good reasons already mentioned elsewhere. They already grow up too fast.

This may help -- all the reputable piercing sites and piercers accept that piercings done under 16 have an increased risk of rejection or growing out..


What is rejection or 'growing out'?
Rejection
Rejection is a cause.

Rejection happens when you place a foreign object in your body (i.e. body jewellery) and your body, for one reason or another, considers that foreign object a threat to your health and safety. In order to protect itself, your body slowly fights the object by pushing it and healing the skin behind it to eventually force the object completely out through the skin.

Migration
Migration is the symptom.

The process of the movement that slowly brings your body jewellery closer and closer to the skin's surface is migration. If the jewellery is not removed, or the rate of migration slowed, the process of rejection will cause it to migrate far enough to actually create a hole large enough for the jewellery to fall out on its own. Once this happens, the possibility of healing without scarring is very unlikely.

There are many reasons for piercings rejecting: •Failure to carry out proper aftercare
•Having an allergic reaction to the jewellery being worn
•Improper placement of the piercing (e.g. pierced too shallow)
•Playing with the piercing before it has fully healed
•Catching or knocking the piercing with enough force
•Stretching the piercing too quickly or before it has fully healed
•Wearing jewellery that is too thin
•Pregnancy
•Illness or stress
There is also a specific kind of rejection, popularly called 'growing out', to which a number of piercings are prone. This is a natural process, quite often associated with a person's body growing, and is not usually accompanied by any redness, discomfort or discharge until the very late stages. This is more common in younger teenagers (who's bodies are still growing). The end result of this process, which can often take a year or more, is the loss of the piercing. We commonly see eyebrows, surface piercings and navels 'growing out' over time. There is no way of being able to tell for definite how long a piercee will keep their piercing for, as it varies so much from person to person. If you are considering a surface piercing please bear in mind the placement, as another thing that can affect the longevity of the piercing is the amount of movement that area of the body gets. The constant stretching and relaxing, of, for example, an ankle piercing, can also help a piercing to work it's way forward.

[TightEnd]

You'd let her get her ears pierced at 13 though? 

By the way, I have no opinion on this as I'm not a parent and therefore unable to have a valid opinion on anything to do with children or parenting.  Shame the same doesn't apply to the catholic church...

Her ears are pierced. I don't think that's a contradiction, he says pondering, I think body piercings are a different kettle of fish to ear piercing (which her mum agreed to and I chuntered about for a bit and gave in over, and she actually doesn't use!)

[the sicilian]

As an aside...

I really have a pet hate of babies with pierced ears and wearing jewelry ...

opinions ?

[TightEnd]

As an aside...

I really have a pet hate of babies with pierced ears and wearing jewelry ...

opinions ?

Totally!  Just ridic.

[Acidmouse]

13. Too young.

[AndrewT]

Dear George

I think 13 is too young for body piercings. The rampant sexualisation of underage girls makes it far too easy for someone to get into trouble with the law.

Yours     Gary Glitter

[celtic]

As an aside...

I really have a pet hate of babies with pierced ears and wearing jewelry ...

opinions ?

Totally!  Just ridic.

[Woodsey]

As an aside...

I really have a pet hate of babies with pierced ears and wearing jewelry ...

opinions ?

Chav babies innit?