Your Thoughts?

[MPOWER]

My dear dad

Through ancestry he has found about a man who died next to him.

55 years ago my dad was on mine pit rescue in Notts. Which was a very demanding job in the day.

He was a keep fit power lifting type of bloke. Had his first pint at 24.

Even when I was 20 he could do a press ups with me sitting on his back.

So he has had a niggle with him for years. He knows how his mate died because he tried to save him which was not correctly reported in the inquest.
He had no chance at the time to tell his story. The inquest happened and no opinion was given by my dad.   

So he tracks down the daughter on line. He does not know if it would be right to tell this woman who he does not know how her dad was killed.

My dad is 75 and I have never known of this story before. But he has talked about it before to family members.

So it is niggling him. He's 75 but still very fit and spot on in the mind.

He died instantly. Although at the time my dad did not know this. A accident happened and he tried to help. there was a rock fall collapse in the mine and a prop hit him
and pushed him into a conveyor belt.

So this woman, his daughter would she feel better knowing her dad died with no suffering after all these years. Or is it best to let sleeping dogs lie?   

Just concerned me my dad was thinking about this all these years.

there is a lot of clever folk on blonde and would like to some opinions please

Regards

M   
   

   

[AndrewT]

Or is it best to let sleeping dogs lie?   

This IMO - if I was her and was told now I'd be pretty fking cross at the person who'd kept their trap shut for 50 years.

[ruud]

I think what is needed in situations like this is to consider one thing:

Who is it being done for the benefit of?

And will the teller or the tellee be better off at the end of it? If you are going to go intruding in someone's life after all this time I think it is imperative that the tellee is definitively happier at the end of it all than they were at the beginning. It can't just be done to ease the conscience of the person harbouring the guilt.

No opinion on what should be done in this case btw, just a general one

[millidonk]

"ignorance is bliss" and I fully believe that.