I didnt wanna say anything

[smithy69]

but thought i may aswell as i treat blonde as family.

A few days ago my missus left me and took my daughter. Not sure what to do or where to turn.

Not sure whether I wanna get drunk or throw myself from a large building

[RED-DOG]

The best thing to do right now is nothing mate, you will be thinking much more clearly in a couple of days, I promise.

BTW, that daughter will always need a dad.

[Colchester Kev]

Gulp .... DONT rush into doing anything at the moment, make contact with her and suggest a meeting in a day or 2 to talk things over.  When you get the chance to talk with her, you need to LISTEN and let her speak. keep calm and try and look at the relationship over the past few months .... good luck mate, I know where you are coming from and i know how you are feeling.  Just try to stay calm and remain rational, i know it seems impossible, but you have to do it for the sake of the little one.

[TightEnd]

Please don't drink too much or rush into anything

When things are a little bit less raw on all sides see if you can talk things through

Organisations like RELATE can help a lot if both parties are willing


I do remember when my marriage broke up, and what I felt like...every situation is different so its difficult to give specific advice...however I would urge you both to think of your daughter first and foremost in whatever you noth decide .

[smithy69]

We wont get back together - thaqt has been made clear and in honesty although I love her my daughter will always come 1st.

I am gonna end up being a weekend dad, which is everything I dont wanna be.

My parents split up when i was young and it does make a difference IMO

Drinking is the easy way out I suppose, but seems like a good option currently - but agree it would be a stupid thing to do

[kinboshi]

Think of your daughter, and think of yourself.

Good advice from the others, so not much more I can add - except don't do anything rash whilst you're angry or otherwise emotionally charged.  You might end up regretting it.  Make all your decisions after you've had time to think about them.  If in doubt, sleep on it.

As you already know, drink's not a good idea. 

[Irishdenis]

God bless fella.  Say nothing for now. It never comes out the way you want it to. remember you have friends here, when you feel low look at the folks who have posted and send them an email. We will all reply.
No drink, drugs or gambling for a while mate. Get your head clear and think ahead for you and your daughter.

[KeithyB]

Really sorry to hear that Smithy, it's certainly been a rough few months for you.

Difficult to know what to say other than to agree with the others and suggest trying to stay calm for a few days whilst you take it all in.

Your daughter's top priority but you know that already.

Hope it's helped you, in some small way anyway, just by posting it on here.

All the best, Keith

[smithy69]

Been the worst 12 months of my life, but it will get better i am sure of that!!!!!!

Cheers guys

[Graham C]

Really sorry to hear about your bad news Smithy, hope things get better for you soon.

[The_nun]

People keep telling us things happen for a reason, hell knows how that's supposed to make one feel better but if it is true then things will become clear for you soon.

If the marriage has been Rocky for a while then eventually you will see how much better life is without that awful tension. Your daughter will benefit by having 2 happy parents again instead of a home full of atmosphere.

Who knows,  once you have both regained your original personalities , as these can be lost in complicated situations,  you both may remember why you fell in love in the first place and re-unite, but if not well then eventually you will realise it was for the best, but at the moment it has to be chin up.


Regards Maureen.x

[KingPoker]

I dont really know what i can say that already hasnt been said.

Just do 3 things, give your missus time, reassure your little one how much you love her and stay off the booze mate, its a depressant and it only going to make eveything worse.

And as Denis said between the people who have posted here, one of us is pretty much on here round the clock so pm one of us if your feeling low.

If pokers taught you anything it should be to keep your head up and dont do anything stupid and you will come through.

All the best.

Gareth

[Delboy]

I can only echo what everyone else has said.

My thoughts are with you Smithy.

[M3boy]

Smithy, as horrible as the thought of being a weekend Dad is, it is better than no Dad at all m8.

Hopefully you will take the above in the kind way it was meant.

Breakups are never easy,,,,,,,,,,,,,, time is a good healer though m8 - chin up

Feel free to PM me if you wanna rant/rave or just chat m8

[julian]

that's really sad news fella,
give it time, things will improve and, as tom said,
that girl is always gonna need her daddy