If you read the original post again there are a number of clear indisputable facts...
JJ states that his opponent held A-J
Therefore "Bob" has the best hand with the broadway straight and wins the pot. This is a fact and cannot be challenged.
When the TD is called he/she makes a judgement call based on second hand information concerning the "mucking" of cards. The decision is to award the pot to JJ. Whether this decision is technically correct is hardly relevant...a decision is made. As players, if we don't accept decisions there would be chaos. Therefore it is now JJ's pot to keep. This is a fact and cannot be challenged.
So "Bob" WINS the pot but JJ is AWARDED the pot. These are the two facts that can't be argued.
But....
With all due respect to the spirit of the game sometimes the correct ruling will go against it.
This is something I don't agree with. No TD or single person has authority over the spirit of the game. This is a much greater entity and cannot be "ruled" against.
This post is not about the rule-book and the technicalities of the game. If it was, the cold-hard facts about the hand would be presented in isolation. But if you read the post there is much talk about jibes, insults, revenge, threats etc etc...and this is where the heart of the thread lies. So no, I don't think that the spirit of the game is subject to a TD's ruling.....this is a moral issue and principles are something that individual players must uphold if they choose to do so.
The thread is not entitled "Technically Is This My Pot?" it is headed "Am I Horrible For Doing This?"
The reason JJ does this is because his opponent is a shit....but now JJ wants to know if this makes him a shit too. The actual "ruling" is inconsequential in my eyes.