free cash for kids or should they earn it?

[cia260895]

When i was 13 i done a paper round then at 15 i done a paper round milk round went golf caddying during the day(kicked out of school) and at night i collected tv rental money and sold scratch cards was on about 50 quid a week and learnt from then the importance of earning money i even gave my mum a tenner as money was tight back then,and i beleive that now the kids get it all to easy,yes we as parents are probably to blame but i still think that they should have to do something to get it.

[Snatiramas]

I say send them up the chimneys that will soon sort them out...........
Such a tricky question. Last night I had the good fortune to go to the Theatre with Mrs Snat. Her choice.
She chose "Dealers Choice"

What a stonkingly good play which if you get the chance to see I would recommend (though watch out for the language particularly the C word) and addresses what happens down the line if you give your children everything. In doing so it also opens the whole nature / nurture question. Is giving spoiling? If I make it harder to earn the money will they have an appreciation of the value.............I was thinking of something different. I thought what if I make it harder to spend. Here is your money but you can only do option a) or option b). Or what about......Here is your pocket money but you have to buy your own cosmetics...........In watching Adam and Rachel to date. Adam likes to live for now and would spend as soon as he can..........Rachel aged 9 is saving for her first car

[matt674]

(though watch out for the language particularly the C word)

Chores?

If I were you, i really wouldn't show your wife the thread.  You know her best of course, but it might not go down too well if it looks like you've been airing your disagreements on a public forum and basically intend to show her the views of people she doesn't know to back up your argument.  I'd probably just say 'i've been doing a bit of research on the internet, and it seems most people with teenage kids expect them to help round the house', or something.

thats a point - where are am i going to go now if i want advice on relationships? 

[Claw75]

thats a point - where are am i going to go now if i want advice on relationships? 

just use MrsSilo's account 

[matt674]

thats a point - where are am i going to go now if i want advice on relationships? 

just use MrsSilo's account 

[TheChipPrince]

Does anyone else feel like Cilla when these two are 'tooing & frowing'?      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

[cia260895]

Does anyone else feel like Cilla when these two are 'tooing & frowing'?      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

A lorrra lorrra people

[celtic]

Does anyone else feel like puking when these two are 'tooing & frowing'?      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

FYP

[Claw75]

[taximan007]

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[goldfoxdom]

agree with celtic and the rest are talking utter ****. Nice and safe to allow your 14 year old daughter to get a paper job and £25 a week, woopty do

[cia260895]

If I were you, i really wouldn't show your wife the thread.  You know her best of course, but it might not go down too well if it looks like you've been airing your disagreements on a public forum and basically intend to show her the views of people she doesn't know to back up your argument.  I'd probably just say 'i've been doing a bit of research on the internet, and it seems most people with teenage kids expect them to help round the house', or something.

Your right not worth a rolliking yet will wait til i get more response then shower them down on her

 If you even hint that you've made this post she will have your nuts in a vice..it's the way of the woman. Pretend all the arguements are your own..never tell her you posted it on your poker forum

OMG...if you insist on showing her the posts, I'd LOVE to be a fly on the wall during the errrrrrrm...chat.   

Do yourself a favour and follow their advice.  Pretend you've thought this out all on your own.  Otherwise, you'll be back here relaying the tale of your own undoing.   

ok have taken the advice on board and decided not to show her this post be bals in a vice would be unlikey though as the vice is in the shed and i'm sure she wouldnt know how to use it!!

btw she intimated that she might me upping her pocket money!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[boldie]

agree with celtic and the rest are talking utter ****. Nice and safe to allow your 14 year old daughter to get a paper job and £25 a week, woopty do

how is it unsafe for your 14YO daughter to get a paper round?..Do you live in downtown Bagdad? Or are you a Daily Mail reader who believes Gypsies, Illegal immigrants and Peadofiles are looking to steal or rape her at the earliest opportunity?

What a load of tosh; "unsafe". show me statistics that prove that 14 YO girls with a paper route are more likely to have something horrible happen to them than a 14 YO who gets 100£ spending money. The "it's not safe" arguement in this sort of discussion is always brought up by demagogues and never by someone who can actually prove it. "Think of the children!" as Reverend Lovejoy's wife says.

[suzanne]

This has actually been a tricky subject for me in the past and I still dont know the answer tbh.

As the oldest of 4 kids from a one parent family I had many "chores" which mostly involved looking after siblings/cooking etc while my mum was at work, I didnt get any pocket money as my mum was always skint (even tho she was also signing on and had a live in boyfriend) so as soon as I was old enough I got a paper round and earned a whole 60p a week :-) I was absolutly delighted when I got my first weeks wages and spent the whole lot in the papershop on sweets and comics for myself and the kids and bought my mum her fav choccy bar. She went absolutly mental when I arrived home with all my goodies and said if I was going to squander my money then I could afford to give her rent!! I had to give her 20p of my hard earned cash and later when I worked in a chip shop 4 nights a week she took £2.20 from my £7.20.

Now Im sure her intentions were to teach me that I had to pay my way in life but I deeply resented her robbing me of my hard earned cash.

When I was 14 I got a job in a local hotel washing dishes and earning the pricely sum of 59p an hour woohoo. My mum took her usual cut grrrr. I was soon "promoted" to waitress/chambermaid/general dogsbody and had a wage increase and did a lot more hours. I would tell my mum I was going to my mates house when I was actually working. The problem then was what do with the extra money I was not supposed to have. I didnt have a bank account or anywhere to hide it so I had to spend it. Im ashamed to say that most of the money went in fruit machines and I ended up addicted to them for many years.

When I had kids I promised myself I would never do that to them. My oldest is 19 now, he never did a paper round or any part time job while he was at school. He has never done any chores and now I worry how on earth he would ever look after himself when he eventually moves out as he doesnt know one end of a hoover from the other. He got whatever he wanted if I could afford it as a kid and if I couldnt afford it he would moan non stop till he did get it :-( When he started work I explained to him that I was having to pay extra rent/council tax and that it was only fair he should contribute, he kicked off big time and we had some horrible rows about it... so maybe my mum was right after all ...though im not totally convinced.

[boldie]

my granddad did a similar thing to his kids as your mom did to you Suzanne, but he put it away in a savings account for them. I though that was a great way of teaching kids the value of money.