Vagueness and the Aftermath - A sporadic diary

[MrDickie]

Lol.

Seriously though, we've never gone in for the 'She allows me to do this and I allow her to do that' malarkey.

We're both grown-ups, we do what we like and we trust each other to do the right thing.

I can't understand why people grow up, learn to stand on their own two feet, fly the nest, and then accept being treated like a child again when they get married.

"Where have you been?" "Do you know what time it is?" "How much did you spend?" "You want to do what?"? etc... That's the sort of thing that kills relationships. (IMHO of course)

Mrs Red and I have been married for 40 years in October, which is not bad for a femme fatale and an international lover/world wide playboy.
 
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Exactly the same reasons that me and MrsD have been married for 30 years. Oh and agreeing with everything she says helps too. Stops us from having any arguments.

[Doobs]

Surely much of this stems from having kids though.  I can't just feck off to Dublin for a 4 day poker trip without making sure the kids are going to be cared for.  So there must be a line of sorts, just getting that line right is the difficult part. 

Would love to hear Mrs Red's take on this...

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Surely much of this stems from having kids though.  I can't just feck off to Dublin for a 4 day poker trip without making sure the kids are going to be cared for.  So there must be a line of sorts, just getting that line right is the difficult part. 

Would love to hear Mrs Red's take on this...

Exactly.

It only works if there is a line. The difference is, we trust each other to know where the line is and cut each other as much slack as is reasonably possible.

I'll get Mrs Red to read the thread and give her thoughts. Perhaps she will explain better than I have.

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You''ll have to wait while I tell her what she thinks.

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We went to Costco today. I bought 6 x 24 cans of my usual Butchers Tripe dog food and an 18kg bag of dry meal that is equivalent to the one I buy elsewhere and saved £45.

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On the downside, they forced me to eat a load of food samples. Fried chicken, fish, bacon, cake.. The list was endless.

Another hour and I wouldn't have been able to eat my tea.

[Doobs]

You''ll have to wait while I tell her what she thinks.

Very good.  Am sure you have it right

[Karabiner]

A friend of mine that i play golf with has a cockerpoo puppy similar in looks to Poppy, except his is a dog and it's nine months old.

He's having trouble getting it to eat although it gets plenty of exercise. He says he'll take it for it's morning walk and then put a dish of food down for it around 11am and the pooch won't touch it. After a bit he'll take the food away anmd offer it to him at tea-time presumably after another walk and he may or may not eat some of it.

He says the dog is fit and healthy and his missus (who worries about it) tries to tempt it with cheese and suchlike but it just a very picky eater. What would you suggest?

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A friend of mine that i play golf with has a cockerpoo puppy similar in looks to Poppy, except his is a dog and it's nine months old.

He's having trouble getting it to eat although it gets plenty of exercise. He says he'll take it for it's morning walk and then put a dish of food down for it around 11am and the pooch won't touch it. After a bit he'll take the food away anmd offer it to him at tea-time presumably after another walk and he may or may not eat some of it.

He says the dog is fit and healthy and his missus (who worries about it) tries to tempt it with cheese and suchlike but it just a very picky eater. What would you suggest?

If it's fit and healthy Ralph he has no need to worry.

I would offer it food once a day in progressively smaller amounts until it clears it's dish immediately. Then I would stick with that amount and only offer more if it is obviously looking for it.

[Mrs RED-DOG]

You''ll have to wait while I tell her what she thinks.

LOL - I agree with Tom - no surprise there then....

I think that for a marriage to work it has to be a partnership, you can't live in one another pockets but, you have to have some things in common, I like a lot of things he likes, TV, cinema, music, walking, nature, eating, sightseeing to name a few.
We have been that long together we have even started finishing each others sentences....

Having said that I think that you still have to keep your own identity and not become a carbon copy ..... We do share a love of all things outdoor, as I have already said but we do have likes and dislikes we work around them sort of things .....TV programmes etc.

I think the main thing is to be happy with your life. I like to enjoy myself like anyone else, I also want Tom to enjoy himself too! So we don't stick the spoke in with each other just for the sake of it.

[Tal]

We doing the "Ask RED-DOG dog questions" thing?

Excellent.


Sir,

Why do dogs have mad moments? By way of example, a tube of you clip:



Is this just a staffy thing or do yours do it, too?  

I remain, etc.

Tal

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We doing the "Ask RED-DOG dog questions" thing?

Excellent.


Sir,

Why do dogs have mad moments? By way of example, a tube of you clip:



Is this just a staffy thing or do yours do it, too?  

I remain, etc.

Tal

Haha. Great vid.


All dogs do it Tal, especially puppies. It's play behaviour, notice the occasional bum in the air, head down posture, that's a classic doggy invitation to join in the game.

That puppy is pretending to chase, fight, pounce etc, and he's desperate for someone to join in.

Even quite old dogs have a bit of a dilly now and then when they run from room to room bouncing off the furniture as they go. It's just sheer exuberance bursting through.



Watch this dog. He seems aggressive but the head down, bum up classic play bow posture gives him away.

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Look at this posture, you just know it means he wants to play.









If you you put your head on the floor and stick your bum in the air your dog will know that you want to play too.

(Warning! Don't try this with your mates down the pub)

[Tal]

Terrific answer.

My experience with staffies is they just always want to play.   No body language needed. Balls, sticks, pulls, tugs, anything to hand. Just want the attention, the fuss and the interaction.

Amazing how different the reality is from the perception.

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Terrific answer.

My experience with staffies is they just always want to play.   No body language needed. Balls, sticks, pulls, tugs, anything to hand. Just want the attention, the fuss and the interaction.

Amazing how different the reality is from the perception.

I'm a huge fan of bull breeds Tal, Staffies especially. There are not many breeds that couldn't be improved by a dash of bull blood, it brings such great traits with it. Loyalty, inteligence, courage, stamina, tenacity, and not least, a sense of fun.

When I was breeding lurchers I always used to like 1/8 to 1/4 bull in the mix.



Look at the pics below. The first is pure whippet, the second is 3/4 whippet, 1/4 bull.

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1/2 bull 1/2 deerhound X 1/4 bull 3/4 greyhound.

What a great looking dog

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