Personal bad beat situation

[cia260895]

well the holiday to cyprus is now off!!!! hey ho

just not the right time to leave the boys at the end of the day

[sofa----king]

well the holiday to cyprus is now off!!!! hey ho

just not the right time to leave the boys at the end of the day

pitty that mate you could have watched me swimming around,.,.,.,,.ah forget that.,.,lol
hope all works out for you mate.,.,.,.,.,.,

[cia260895]

well the holiday to cyprus is now off!!!! hey ho

just not the right time to leave the boys at the end of the day

pitty that mate you could have watched me swimming around,.,.,.,,.ah forget that.,.,lol
hope all works out for you mate.,.,.,.,.,.,

just think i could have raced ya.,.,.,.,., would have kicked yr ass too


cheers m8

[star]

Hey Ho ? All your posts on this thread seem to go the same way..'feel sorry for me'. Your ex wife or 'her' your children's mother has cancer. Stop moaning about past history, present day rifts holidays, money, your health, getting contracts written,  and just get on with looking after your children and put youself and your own needs at the bottom of the list.  Your a parent and that's your job.  The day you decided to become a dad was the day you decided that your children came first..regardless . Im sure that if your present wife is a good woman she will support you....even if it means her getting a second job cleaning toilets and eating beans on toast for the foreseeable future. 

[Snatiramas]

Hey Ho ? All your posts on this thread seem to go the same way..'feel sorry for me'. Your ex wife or 'her' your children's mother has cancer. Stop moaning about past history, present day rifts holidays, money, your health, getting contracts written,  and just get on with looking after your children and put youself and your own needs at the bottom of the list.  Your a parent and that's your job.  The day you decided to become a dad was the day you decided that your children came first..regardless . Im sure that if your present wife is a good woman she will support you....even if it means her getting a second job cleaning toilets and eating beans on toast for the foreseeable future. 

Interesting view. I do think at some point we all need a vent to let some of the downsides of life out. My guess is that this is CIA's and therefore the posts may follow a certain style. My own thread of course is one that screams "LOOK AT ME I AM WONDERFUL COS I AM LOSING WEIGHT" and I think the wonderful thing about this forum is that if you feel the need you can feel sorry for yourself in print and get support and if necessary a kick up the bottom. Both can be effective contributions.

[cia260895]

Hey Ho ? All your posts on this thread seem to go the same way..'feel sorry for me'. Your ex wife or 'her' your children's mother has cancer. Stop moaning about past history, present day rifts holidays, money, your health, getting contracts written,  and just get on with looking after your children and put youself and your own needs at the bottom of the list.  Your a parent and that's your job.  The day you decided to become a dad was the day you decided that your children came first..regardless . I'm sure that if your present wife is a good woman she will support you....even if it means her getting a second job cleaning toilets and eating beans on toast for the foreseeable future. 

I suppose you really would have to know all the facts that exist between us to fully understand my position.

But you have your opinion and you are fully entitled to it.

Yes i agree that this is pretty much a negative thread and yes i do feel sorry for myself even slightly depressed about the situation, but then it is a bit of a negative situation,and this is just my way of writing things down as i see it.

but on the other hand 1 thing i think you are not thinking about in your reply is what if I was to relapse then where would that leave my boys with no Mum OR Dad to look after them.

[cia260895]

Right it all starts tomorrow and although am nervous as hell i really cant wait for it to start apparently the 1st meal is spag bol how easy is that?

,have just wished my ex all the best,and i can tell that she is as nervous as anything which is understandable but have told her i'll do my best to make sure the boys are well looked after.

and also the boys go to bed a lot ealrlier when they are in their house lol bet they dont when i'm there, but then i think i should keep as much as normal routine as poss.. we'll see ..........

[ShatnerPants]

Deep breath.............

And begin.

I'm absolutely sure you're going to have to do a lot of 'venting' over the weeks.  Just rant away as much as you need.  If you feel the need to do it away from the public forum, feel free to pm with as much crap as necessary.

I, for one, was hoping that things between you and the ex would improve a tad more than it seems they have.  So if possible you're going to have to prioritise ( ? ) 1) Kids 2) New Mrs 3) You.

No matter how much things are getting on top of you, you'll be no good to anyone if you don't give yourself at least a few hours a week.

Like you say, try to keep the kids routine as samey as possible.  Remember to tell the Mrs that you do love her ( A well timed hug is worth a few thousand bonus points ). 

And GL to you, above all.

[cia260895]

Thx to all 

what a great start it's going to be 2night i get to take Charlie to Judo something which i have never had the chance top do b4 and after a trip to asda to get all the Man essentials...............

[Dingdell]

Enjoy every moment and get them to bed at the right time, keep to routines as much as possible, normality is comfortable. Good luck xx

[cia260895]

well the 1st day is done and dusted no major probs was "wicked" as the youths say!!!!

but i take my hat off to all the mums out there there is just soooo much to do and think about didnt stop til just gone 9 last night

 but the real test is today when i have both of them to sort out am absolutely cream crackered eyes drooping now

spag bol was spot on and none left although i did drop half the spagetti om the floor when i pulled it out of the cupboard the wrong way but the mad dog ate it raw and hard wtf???

fajittas 2nite wooohoooo

and as we speak my ex is in the operating room and it's a 12 hour op wow

[cia260895]

And my new name is



Mrs Doubtfire

[Dingdell]

And my new name is



Mrs Doubtfire

Photo pls.

[Laxie]

Yep...must have photos. 

[cia260895]

Yep...must have photos. 

yr just kinky!