Personal bad beat situation

[ShatnerPants]

Keep it up, you're doing better than most could ( me included )

If you carry on at this rate, I reckon that soon you'll be eligible for honary womanhood. 

That's a double edged sword tho'.  The more you can prove you can cope with, the more you are expected to do.

[turny]

ian

although i rarely post on these types of threads im thinking of you and hopeing things work out ok

take care

paul

[cia260895]

just when u think yr at the lowest Eb there is always something else to come along and smack you in the face, my sister in law(wife of my brother who died 18months ago) has just found a lump in her breast and also there is an irregularity in her smear test results but here's hoping that it all nothing plzzzzzzz

I am feeling totally overwhelmed by all of it at the moment I just don't know my arse from my elbow,the worst time is when the boys are in bed and I'm on me own in a house which just doesn't offer any comfort,when i say that i mean the sofa is like a hard block and the bed isn't much improved on that,so after a long day all i wanna do is just chill out comfortably.Aside from that all is as well a scan be expected,apart from my ex having to have another op to remove some dead tissue.

My wife is also finding it really hard which makes it harder knowing how she is feeling,simple things like the kitchen lights blowing after i had left on sunday and will stay off until i get back on Friday,

ALSO I NOW KNOW WHY WOMEN LIKE TO BE GIVEN FLOWERS SO CMON YOU BLOKES CHEER YR WOMEN UP AND GIVE THEM A BUNCH NOW AND THEN...

the boys really do seem to be coping really well with it and although this is real hard work for me seeing them happy means its all done for the good.

On the poker side of things when yr mind isn't focused properly i do find it impossible to play my normal game and keep donking off at some stage so Tracey ill be doing my best to keep it up lol@ A3  sigh................. and ffs i have to contend with virgin broadband which is real shite....grrrrrrrrrr

on a brighter note ill be 40 on sunday. so I am having all me family up to celebrate/commiserate  and to mark the occasion I'll be giving up the dreaded fags wow what a time to be thinking of giving up but i will give it my best shot and think of the boys...

Apologies to all for the continued down side to this thread but am sure things will turn around real soon......





wont they?

[Dingdell]

Oh Ian - it's horrible when it's coming at you all at once, I'm so sorry you're having a horrible time but just keep looking at the smiles on your boys faces and know that you are doing a great job.

The intial joy at being with the kids is possibly fading a bit as looking after everything becomes more of a chore, you're missing the Missus - and quite right too, and you are genrally riding a white charger without as much thanks and love as you should be getting under normal circumstances. In another scenario you would be the great hero but because of the problems and history between the family I bet not many are telling you you're doing a good job.

I know you're not doing it for the thanks but it would be nice now and again....?

Remember - It's always darkest before the dawn. It will get better and you will know that you have done right by and for your children. x

[cia260895]

Oh Ian - it's horrible when it's coming at you all at once, I'm so sorry you're having a horrible time but just keep looking at the smiles on your boys faces and know that you are doing a great job.

The intial joy at being with the kids is possibly fading a bit as looking after everything becomes more of a chore, you're missing the Missus - and quite right too, and you are genrally riding a white charger without as much thanks and love as you should be getting under normal circumstances. In another scenario you would be the great hero but because of the problems and history between the family I bet not many are telling you you're doing a good job.

I know you're not doing it for the thanks but it would be nice now and again....?

Remember - It's always darkest before the dawn. It will get better and you will know that you have done right by and for your children. x

thx for that you have hit the nail spot on xx

also thx for all the support on here and pm's it certainly helps

[ItsMrAlex2u]

Havent had a chance to catch up on this thread for a while. Sorry to hear about your sister in law, and sincerely hope she is ok.

Not really sure what else to say to be honest, but best wishes to you and I hope things improve soon. I cant imagine what you are going through and to attempt to give up smoking in perhaps the most stressful few months of your life is brave !
Dont get too down on yourself if you dont manage it this time, just give it another go when things settle a bit. I am giving it a shot at new year.

All the best. Keep up the "diary" here, there are lots of people who are would like to know how you are getting on and putting it all down in writing certainly helps.

Take care m8

Alex

[ShatnerPants]

Yup.

I always pop in when I see a new post.

You're hitting situations  wayyy beyond my experiences, and I sorta don't feel quailfied to give advice at this point.

But I'm rootin' for ya.

Keep posting, and take advantage of the extra discount you can get on buying wine by the 1/2 dozen.

And enjoy the 'phone sex with your mrs. 

[ItsMrAlex2u]

And enjoy the 'phone sex with your mrs. 

I properly LoL'd at this

[cia260895]

And enjoy the 'phone sex with your mrs. 

I properly LoL'd at this

if the situation wasnt so delicate i'd lol as well but the Mrs is not having the best of times of things at the mo almost daily phone calls with tears from her.

[ShatnerPants]

And enjoy the 'phone sex with your mrs. 

I properly LoL'd at this

if the situation wasnt so delicate i'd lol as well but the Mrs is not having the best of times of things at the mo almost daily phone calls with tears from her.

Soz.  No offense meant obv.

[cia260895]

And enjoy the 'phone sex with your mrs. 

I properly LoL'd at this

if the situation wasnt so delicate i'd lol as well but the Mrs is not having the best of times of things at the mo almost daily phone calls with tears from her.

Soz.  No offense meant obv.

none taken m8 and i'm open to offers for any surrogate wives for fone sex 

to tell the truth somehow it seems to be affecting her more than me.

[ShatnerPants]

And enjoy the 'phone sex with your mrs. 

I properly LoL'd at this

if the situation wasnt so delicate i'd lol as well but the Mrs is not having the best of times of things at the mo almost daily phone calls with tears from her.

Soz.  No offense meant obv.

none taken m8 and i'm open to offers for any surrogate wives for fone sex 

to tell the truth somehow it seems to be affecting her more than me.

That makes sense.  You're so busy you just get on with it, not concentrating on the difficulties.

From a distance, she can see all the difficulties that you're in, as well as her own problems ( one's you'd normally be there to help her with ).   And it wouldn't surprise me if she's feeling a little insecure as well - it would be perfectly natural.  She's seeing you cope really well without her, and she knows she's struggling to cope without you.

But I'm sure she's also feeling guilty about feeling bad about you being away from her, because she understands why you're doing it.

A vicious circle.

All you can do is support her from afar as best as possible, and make sure you see her as often as you can.

I think communication is the key with her.  Talk as often and as openly as you can.  Don't try to be the strong silent one.  It'll make her feel more secure in her own mind if she knows how hard you find things without her there beside you.

Sorry - Bollox ramblings alert.  I got carried away with that, spouting rubbish as always.   If it's unwanted intrusion please ignore.

 

[Laxie]

From a female point of view...I was actually very impressed with your ramblings. 

[HOLDorFOLD]

From a female point of view...I was actually very impressed with your ramblings. 

+1

[Claw75]

From a female point of view...I was actually very impressed with your ramblings. 

+1

me too - not bollox at all