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« on: December 04, 2012, 10:51:52 PM » |
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Do people still think you can have a lifelong partner in the world these days?
With so much choice and freedom, with so many options for things to do, people to meet and talk to (irl and online)
It seems a pretty strange/ alien concept really and it looks to me like people 'settle' way too much.....?
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Woodsey
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« Reply #1 on: December 04, 2012, 11:06:25 PM » |
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Down to the individuals really. It's society that tries to project this as the 'norm' and you get looked at as weird from some quarters if you don't try to follow that.
I know shit loads of people that are in unhappy marriages but stick with it to conform with these norms.
Just do what you want to do is what I say, stuff what anyone else thinks......
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« Reply #2 on: December 04, 2012, 11:18:14 PM » |
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I used to think it was a given and dreamt the dream that I was one of them. 20 years of marriage later, nearly divorced now...and just happy (lucky) to find someone different to grow old with. Doesn't matter when we started.
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I bet when Hugh Hefner dies, you won't hear anyone say, "He's in a better place."
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« Reply #3 on: December 04, 2012, 11:24:31 PM » |
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I used to think me and sicilian were life long partners, then pizzled came along.
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« Reply #4 on: December 04, 2012, 11:40:33 PM » |
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I could not cope with repeat sex for more than a couple of months
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Woodsey
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« Reply #5 on: December 05, 2012, 12:06:45 AM » |
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I could not cope with repeat sex for more than a couple of months
You must be doing it wrong mate.  |
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jgcblack
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« Reply #6 on: December 05, 2012, 12:36:33 AM » |
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Its something that I've not quite understood, I see people settling and they know it and admit it. Is it really a bad thing to be so selfish to want more...?
I have seen couples who were perfect when I was a boy (to my eyes obv) drift apart, and this age we now live in... That can only be easier...
On an animal and instinctual level it seems contradictory, however what is the alternative?
A string of life sharing experiences where you have to close chapters, never to be read again???
On another small note, with x billion people in this world, what is the chance that you happen to live down the road from one of your soul mates....? (assuming you have more than one/billion people)
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« Reply #7 on: December 05, 2012, 01:04:09 AM » |
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I've had a lot of thoughts on this subject previous to now and rather recently too as my own relationship problems came to a fore. My future plan is for future happiness however that comes. At the end of the day, relationships have always been hard work, but the level of trust required now partners can talk to anyone in private online means its a lot harder then before, at least in my opinion. Not given up on anything yet, especially seeing how happy my parents are but certainly looks more difficult. I've long been an advocate of open relationships in this day and age, it just makes sense. To quote Sabine from Fresh Meat "No one in the Netherlands gets married nowadays". Soon we'll be in the slightly more relaxed stage to serious relationships imo.
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bobby1
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« Reply #8 on: December 05, 2012, 01:06:35 AM » |
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I would love to cope with repeat sex for more than a couple of months
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“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”
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taximan007
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« Reply #9 on: December 05, 2012, 08:23:02 AM » |
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I wish they had invented 'bag for life' 30 years ago, would have saved me a fortune |
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humbled to be included alongside such esteemed people - thank you
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« Reply #10 on: December 05, 2012, 08:53:08 AM » |
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36 years and she hasn't killed me yet. | Click to see full-size image. |
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« Reply #11 on: December 05, 2012, 09:12:22 AM » |
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Grandparent's relationship is Incred
Parent's relationship was horrific
Mine is incred (6yrs in)
Swings and roundabouts.
It's like anything, some days are good and some are not so good. It's about what makes you happiest most of the time imo. When i was single I had lots of fun but wasn't truely happy. Now married with my own little family I have masses of fun and am mega happy. Everyday I look forward to leaving work and seeing wife and baby, until the day comes when I don't I wouldn't change a thing.
Certainly didn't settle had lots of 'try before you buys' in my time. One girl even proposed to me but I binned her.
Don't wanna end up old, alone, in a bedsit, no offspring to carry on the MilliDonk name and more importantly nobody to coddle my wrinkly balls
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« Reply #12 on: December 05, 2012, 09:59:18 AM » |
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Met my girlfriend in 1992 in an incredible chain of events that meant we were destined to be together. Head over heels I proposed the following year. Almost 20yrs later we still haven't got round to tying the knot. No point rushing into anything.
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« Reply #13 on: December 05, 2012, 10:03:58 AM » |
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Met my girlfriend in 1992 in an incredible chain of events that meant we were destined to be together. Head over heels I proposed the following year. Almost 20yrs later we still haven't got round to tying the knot. No point rushing into anything.
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Try to be the person your dog thinks you are.
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« Reply #14 on: December 05, 2012, 10:10:34 AM » |
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Loving that picture Red.
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