lifelong partners

[jgcblack]

Do people still think you can have a lifelong partner in the world these days?

With so much choice and freedom, with so many options for things to do, people to meet and talk to (irl and online)

It seems a pretty strange/ alien concept really and it looks to me like people 'settle' way too much.....?


/discuss

[Woodsey]

Down to the individuals really. It's society that tries to project this as the 'norm' and you get looked at as weird from some quarters if you don't try to follow that.

I know shit loads of people that are in unhappy marriages but stick with it to conform with these norms.

Just do what you want to do is what I say, stuff what anyone else thinks......

[Laxie]

I used to think it was a given and dreamt the dream that I was one of them.  20 years of marriage later, nearly divorced now...and just happy (lucky) to find someone different to grow old with.  Doesn't matter when we started.

[celtic]

I used to think me and sicilian were life long partners, then pizzled came along.

[aaron1867]

I could not cope with repeat sex for more than a couple of months

[Woodsey]

I could not cope with repeat sex for more than a couple of months

You must be doing it wrong mate. 

[jgcblack]

Its something that I've not quite understood, I see people settling and they know it and admit it.  Is it really a bad thing to be so selfish to want more...?

I have seen couples who were perfect when I was a boy (to my eyes obv) drift apart, and this age we now live in... That can only be easier...

On an animal and instinctual level it seems contradictory, however what is the alternative?
A string of life sharing experiences where you have to close chapters, never to be read again???

On another small note, with x billion people in this world, what is the chance that you happen to live down the road from one of your soul mates....? (assuming you have more than one/billion people)

[rfgqqabc]

I've had a lot of thoughts on this subject previous to now and rather recently too as my own relationship problems came to a fore. My future plan is for future happiness however that comes. At the end of the day, relationships have always been hard work, but the level of trust required now partners can talk to anyone in private online means its a lot harder then before, at least in my opinion. Not given up on anything yet, especially seeing how happy my parents are but certainly looks more difficult. I've long been an advocate of open relationships in this day and age, it just makes sense. To quote Sabine from Fresh Meat "No one in the Netherlands gets married nowadays". Soon we'll be in the slightly more relaxed stage to serious relationships imo.

[bobby1]

I would love to cope with repeat sex for more than a couple of months

fyp

[taximan007]

I wish they had invented 'bag for life' 30 years ago, would have saved me a fortune 

[RED-DOG]

36 years and she hasn't killed me yet.

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[millidonk]

Grandparent's relationship is Incred
Parent's relationship was horrific
Mine is incred (6yrs in)

Swings and roundabouts.

It's like anything, some days are good and some are not so good. It's about what makes you happiest most of the time imo. When i was single I had lots of fun but wasn't truely happy. Now married with my own little family I have masses of fun and am mega happy. Everyday I look forward to leaving work and seeing wife and baby, until the day comes when I don't I wouldn't change a thing.

Certainly didn't settle had lots of 'try before you buys' in my time. One girl even proposed to me but I binned her.

Don't wanna end up old, alone, in a bedsit, no offspring to carry on the MilliDonk name and more importantly nobody to coddle my wrinkly balls

[MANTIS01]

Met my girlfriend in 1992 in an incredible chain of events that meant we were destined to be together. Head over heels I proposed the following year. Almost 20yrs later we still haven't got round to tying the knot. No point rushing into anything.

[RED-DOG]

Met my girlfriend in 1992 in an incredible chain of events that meant we were destined to be together. Head over heels I proposed the following year. Almost 20yrs later we still haven't got round to tying the knot. No point rushing into anything.

chain of events story plz

[bobby1]

Loving that picture Red.

tx