I didnt wanna say anything

[sofa----king]

it takes a man to do what youve done and you should be proud of yourself.,.,..,,.,.,you have some great advice from posts on here with people from experience.your little girl will allways be YOUR little girl and im sure things will work out for you.....
my dad allways gives good but strange advice...im sure he would say something like....
just think mate, things are the worst they can be at the moment they MUST only get better coz its the worst now.,.,.,.in a few days, you would have time to think and sort things out with lisa,and she might see the light im sure,she dosent really want this for your little girl,give her time and space and im sure she will come around.,.,.,and if she dont, its not the end of the world,i know people say oh you could have a leg missing or a arm or be seriously ill,just think how many people out there in the world a struggling to cope with just living and realise how lucky and gifted you have be to have what you have had,and still may have .and then you may think mmmmmmm maybe thing are not as bad as i thought,theres allways new chapters in your life, and this is just one of them times which is not one of you favourite ones,,,,think of all the good chapters,and im sure they outway the bad ones mate........i hope this may help a bit ,ive never been in this situation,but we are all sent diffrent things in our lives to test us and this is one for you...
stay positive,and relax,dont get uptight and dont go on the p155 it will still be there when your sober(with a hangover) face upto you problems and be a real BIG MAN like you have done on here with this post,you will overcome this (i feel like saying look into my eyes not around my eyes lol) you have bottle to put this up in full view,I ADMIRE YOU FOR THIS,i wish you well and good luck will be with you.......

[smithy69]

Cheers Mate

I suppose I posted it because Blonde has become a part of my life, I am logged on everyday and stick it on in the background even if I am stupidly busy. I know that mind sound stupid but its become a routine, and more importantly a routine I love.

Things are put in front of us to test us. This is a big test, and hopefully we will all pass with flying colours.

Cant wait for BB

Smithy

[Muahahahaha]

Things are put in front of us to test us. This is a big test, and hopefully we will all pass with flying colours.

Nuff said.

If you can get through this without sinking into the bottle, even occaisionally, you're a better man than I was.  And even I got through eventually.

[ACE2M]

sad news mate. if you do drown your sorrows one night, stay well away from the phone is the only advice i can give based on experience.

[Maddog]

    bad news...

life can suck sometimes but before long if you follow the good advice on here i'm sure you will see some light at the end of the tunnel.

[Muahahahaha]

sad news mate. if you do drown your sorrows one night, stay well away from the phone is the only advice i can give based on experience.

The soundest advice so far

[madasahatstand]

Just keep busy Smithy, no time to reflect.

i would agree with Tikay on this. best to keep your head down and keep busy from the minute you get out of bed til you go back to it.  whatever happens, you'll be fine and your daughter will always recognise you youre her dad!!

mad

[The Dundonian]

Just to let you know pal that it does get better!
I was in exactly the same situation 17 years ago and because I was married to a foreign girl wasn't sure if I would ever see my daughter again.
I went the wrong way and got drunk........it lasted about a year! FFS don't do that!
Now though I have stuck at it and I have a great relationship with my daughter she is a huge part of my life and my new families life and she is now 19 years old!
Theres a happy ending in there mate you just have to write that bit for yourself!

All the best!

[boldie]

It's all been said, so just wanted to wish you well mate.

[bhoywonder]

Very sad for you atm Smithy

I was where you are now 4 years ago,I can empathise with you

I wont go into detail, but it isnt a nice place to be where u are at now......


time is a great healer ( overused cliche ) and with support and time you will be fine

Gl to you and your family in the future

[sledge13]

Yep time is the best healer, had a painful split (house pay out etc, thankfully no kids involved which obv makes it harder). Looking back was for the best....

[smithy69]

Have got my little girl all day sunday - which I can't wait for. There is no chance of a reconcilliation so I have to get my head out of my ass, and get on with my life. Instead of 2 people to centre all my love and time, it is now only 1. Technically she will get twice as much now so maybe its a positive.

I had a few beers last night, but really only through boredom. I haven't drunk in months and not heavily in about 5 years(when I lived abroad) so not concerned about that.

Just gonna get stuck into work, save some pennies for Blonde Bash. That is actually 1 thing I do have to look forward to.

[RED-DOG]

Hope you don't mind me saying this Smithy, but please try to stay friends with your ex, it will make life so much more pleasant for both you and your daughter in the future.

[smithy69]

I think i have too, but its not easy.

I am moving out tonight and gonna spend a few weeks at my old dears - they are going on holiday so gonna house sit.

The hardest thing is from having a cuddle with my little girl at 5am every morning, and watching the same tweenies video every morning - to only seeing her on a sunday.

That is the bit that I am struggling

[Tonji]

I think i have too, but its not easy.

I am moving out tonight and gonna spend a few weeks at my old dears - they are going on holiday so gonna house sit.

The hardest thing is from having a cuddle with my little girl at 5am every morning, and watching the same tweenies video every morning - to only seeing her on a sunday.

That is the bit that I am struggling

That is the real tough part to adjust to. But your precious time with your daughter will carry you through.

Red is right, if you retain good communication with you ex, it is so much easier on all, but particularly for your daughter.