Parenting advice needed

[kinboshi]

Far better to let them drink in the house and show them what responsible drinking is.  You aren't going to stop them from drinking, so best to let them try it in a safe environment.

I agree with that, I was thinking more about the type of drinking I was doing at that age.  Bottle of thunderbird - lovely.  Oops, feel sick, will just throw up over this balcony.  Shit, the police, better run.  Where the hell are my shoes?

Happy days.

Mad Dog 20/20 for me when I was a yoot. 

The poison's changed now, but the results are usually the same.

[gatso]

Mad Dog 20/20 for me when I was a yoot. 

now you're talking. great stuff that was.
yummy

[thetank]

Love the Simpsons episode where Bart is working for the mob and warehousing a truckload of stolen ciggies in his bedroom, stacked right up to the ceiling.
Homer "discovers" what Bart is hiding and comes out with the old "I'm going to stand here and watch you smoke every one" line.

The timing of the visual gag was just perfect. All the new Simpsons knock-off cartoons can't compare to the daddy.

[boldie]

If you don't want them to smoke just have them smoke an entire pack in an hour or so..problem solved once they start going green.

The problem is mainly in the nicking stuff and lying about it though (In my humble opinion) .if you just tell her "Listen we don't like you smoking but we hate you lying more" you can at least count on her being honest with you...the same with drinking. If you encourage responsible drinking rather than making them lie about it you're almost certainly doing a better job of it than outright banning it and kidding yourself on that they never had a drop or never tried smoking.

[Laxie]

The problem is mainly in the nicking stuff and lying about it though (In my humble opinion) .if you just tell her "Listen we don't like you smoking but we hate you lying more" you can at least count on her being honest with you...the same with drinking. If you encourage responsible drinking rather than making them lie about it you're almost certainly doing a better job of it than outright banning it and kidding yourself on that they never had a drop or never tried smoking.

  Only, you said it better in half the time.    

[goldfoxdom]

If all she's doing is smoking cigarettes I probably wouldn't be too heavy.  Would be more worried about drink and/or drugs at that age - much more potential to get into trouble as a result.

Yeah smoking is fine, just kills you.

[Claw75]

If all she's doing is smoking cigarettes I probably wouldn't be too heavy.  Would be more worried about drink and/or drugs at that age - much more potential to get into trouble as a result.

Yeah smoking is fine, just kills you.

A kid isn't going to end up in hospital or dead after a few cigarettes.  Not always guaranteed after drinking or taking drugs.

[kinboshi]

If all she's doing is smoking cigarettes I probably wouldn't be too heavy.  Would be more worried about drink and/or drugs at that age - much more potential to get into trouble as a result.

Yeah smoking is fine, just kills you.

A kid isn't going to end up in hospital or dead after a few cigarettes.  Not always guaranteed after drinking or taking drugs.

Unless they burn the house down sneaking a ciggy in their bedroom.

[cia260895]

well what a lenient lot most of you are I'm with boldie but as she isn't mine and i cant impress that on her although I'd love to

[boldie]

well what a lenient lot most of you are I'm with boldie but as she isn't mine and i cant impress that on her although I'd love to

I might be overstepping the mark here..and apologize if I do, but you said you were the "step father"..that gives you all the rights there, my friend. They are your girls too.

[boldie]

If all she's doing is smoking cigarettes I probably wouldn't be too heavy.  Would be more worried about drink and/or drugs at that age - much more potential to get into trouble as a result.

Yeah smoking is fine, just kills you.

A kid isn't going to end up in hospital or dead after a few cigarettes.  Not always guaranteed after drinking or taking drugs.

Unless they burn the house down sneaking a ciggy in their bedroom.

which is why you should be open about it..see? This parenting malarky is very straight forward. (Can you tell I don't have kids?)

[cia260895]

well what a lenient lot most of you are I'm with boldie but as she isn't mine and i cant impress that on her although I'd love to

I might be overstepping the mark here..and apologize if I do, but you said you were the "step father"..that gives you all the rights there, my friend. They are your girls too.

apparently not according to the mrs........

[barhell]

well what a lenient lot most of you are I'm with boldie but as she isn't mine and i cant impress that on her although I'd love to

I might be overstepping the mark here..and apologize if I do, but you said you were the "step father"..that gives you all the rights there, my friend. They are your girls too.

apparently not according to the mrs........

Hmmmmmm as a step father to 2 girls myself i agree with boldie, i am involved in all aspects of their life, wether it be praise or punish, good or bad, same as any parent.

[AndrewT]

well what a lenient lot most of you are I'm with boldie but as she isn't mine and i cant impress that on her although I'd love to

I might be overstepping the mark here..and apologize if I do, but you said you were the "step father"..that gives you all the rights there, my friend. They are your girls too.

apparently not according to the mrs........

Hmmmmmm as a step father to 2 girls myself i agree with boldie, i am involved in all aspects of their life, wether it be praise or punish, good or bad, same as any parent.

But, somewhere in the back of your mind, are you not wary of the day one of them gives you the "YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO - YOU'RE NOT MY REAL DAD!" speech.

[cia260895]

id then say fine go and live with him

me thinks she wouldnt