Here are the facts in a clear and concise manner!!
I was the dealer on the final table after uncharacteristically busting out early!Background: I have been to Paul's previous home games and they are honestly ran better than some games at the local casino! SERIOUSLY. It is filled with allot of great guys that love the game and enjoy each others company.
I treat it like a night out, get drunk (sing on the karaoke! while the tournament is still on

) and the poker almost becomes a side issue of the night. (Crazy that it does considering everyone there loves the game, but it does!)
Now the OP is a lively sort of boy that used to come into the casino allot of the time, he is no stranger to run ins with people. Now I'm not here to say anything about how he plays the game, or the way he talks to other players etc. Infact many people said to me and others when he walked in "what the fuck is he doing here" just because of his reputation and actions in the casino!!!
NOW THIS POST IS NOT A CHARACHTER ASSASINATION, THE GUY PLAYS THE GAME HIS WAY, AND THAT IS FINE, BUT IN DOING SO U ARE NOT GOING TO WIN MANY FRIENDS, AND SHOULD NOT BE UPSET OR AMAZED WHEN PEOPLE REACT.
But he would be the first to tell you that he comes from the school of though that poker is business and he is there to make money etc, and there is nothing wrong with that.
However, he must accept that if adopting this method of the trash talk type player, and the hollywood showing bluffs etc, then some other players who have different styles and personalities, CAN AND WILL TAKE OFFENSE. Now they are entitle to react in whichever way they react.
If the OP is saying showing bluffs etc are part of his strategy, then the other player can equally say "telling him not to slam cards down in front of him is part of his"
IN SUMMATION!!!!!!!!
The OP did slam the cards down and I have said this to him himself on msn, infact when he did it I knew there was gonna be a reaction, because I myself thought it was just simply bad etiquette, nothing particularly vicious, but definitely bad etiquette.
There is a way to get across points, u can say "FU*K off" many ways. The key is choosing the right tone of voice for the situation "FU*K off" can sound friendly and get a laugh if said in a playful way, say it in a different tone and the whole message is completely different!
IN THIS CASE THE OP CHOSE THE WRONG TONE OF VOICE!!!!!
The OP did not get the entire ethos and vibe of the night the key to this whole thing is in the OP's very own title of OP "HOME GAME" this was a home game in someones HOME!!!!!!!!
Forget the poker aspect, there is a certain level of basic etiquette and respect that has to be shown, FORGET THE POKER GAME, you are in someones house as a guest. Paul does not charge any tourney charge etc.
I pride myself on having perfect etiquette, the most annoying I get is when I burst into singing random songs or do some ivey, hellmuth impressions :-)
I AGREE THAT POKER IS A BUSINESS AND IT WAS DECENT MONEY AT STAKE.
YES POKER IS A BUSINESS, BUT YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER IT IS A "PEOPLE" BUSINESS.
You are dealing with people and reputation is everything, I love my poker friends, you bounce off each other, share the highs and lows, and even borrow money sometimes

Also if you get a bad rep, u do get frozen out of games, ESPECIALLY ON THE LIVE SCENE, whether its juicy cash games or getting barred from casinos, it slowly catches up.
I am a 24 year old guy who has played live tournaments across the country with many different players, and have chose not to become a poker brat! Don't get me wrong I like to watch Tony G, Hellmuth etc on TV with all the hysterics etc, but to quote hellmuth "It's like the WWF"!
Pauls house ain't a wrestling ring, and ipods, shades, energy drinks, SHOULD BE BANNED AT ALL FUTURE EVENTS LOL :-)
Barry