Small Dilemma

[Josedinho]

Sov pretty much nails it. If it really doesn't bother him then there isn't much point doing anything about it.

[dik9]

Explain to him how facebook works, tell him about privacy options and how to remove friends from friend list. He can then choose his preferred option as he deems fit.

[boldie]

Explain to him how facebook works, tell him about privacy options and how to remove friends from friend list. He can then choose his preferred option as he deems fit.

This.

You're his uncle, and you can be the mature adult (I can't believe I said that) in his life that he can talk to you about it there is no need to tell his parents to check his facebook page. Not unless it gets out of hand obviously.

[DaveShoelace]

All good ideas here, I think telling the parents is a bad idea unless the bullying clearly is very very bad. Being the older cousin confidant is great, I always looked up to my older cousins when I was young. Perhaps you could take him down the gym or something like that to help with his confidence if thats what needs working on?

Anyone else freaked out by this thoughtful mature Cos we keep seeing?

[Colchester Kev]

Sounds to me like the lad has low self esteem, do something with him to boost it cos, take him down the snooker hall or gym or something, let him loose on everything and praise him up. If he is really into something, take him to do that, and big him up for it.

Also do the Dik9 suggestion, but do it in a jokey way, make out that you got some tossers giving you grief so this is what you did ... good luck and look after the lad.

xx

[boldie]

Anyone else freaked out by this thoughtful mature Cos we keep seeing?

Very much so.

[GreekStein]

Cheers for responses guys.

As it happens, when I called my cousin the day before his dad was actually around and kinda got the gist of the conversation we were having. My cousin's parents looked into my cousins facebook and are going to take it up with the school.

Cheers for advice, would have been rather funny to get big baz to tell the kid he was gon t'eat te lad's intestines

[StuartHopkin]

Cheers for responses guys.

As it happens, when I called my cousin the day before his dad was actually around and kinda got the gist of the conversation we were having. My cousin's parents looked into my cousins facebook and are going to take it up with the school.

Cheers for advice, would have been rather funny to get big baz to tell the kid he was gon t'eat te lad's intestines

Disasteraments and not the way forward.

[Laxie]

Cheers for responses guys.

As it happens, when I called my cousin the day before his dad was actually around and kinda got the gist of the conversation we were having. My cousin's parents looked into my cousins facebook and are going to take it up with the school.

Cheers for advice, would have been rather funny to get big baz to tell the kid he was gon t'eat te lad's intestines

Disasteraments and not the way forward.

Can't believe I'm saying this, but agree 100% with the green frog.

[boldie]

Cheers for responses guys.

As it happens, when I called my cousin the day before his dad was actually around and kinda got the gist of the conversation we were having. My cousin's parents looked into my cousins facebook and are going to take it up with the school.

Cheers for advice, would have been rather funny to get big baz to tell the kid he was gon t'eat te lad's intestines

Disasteraments and not the way forward.

Can't believe I'm saying this, but agree 100% with the green frog.

yeah, he sure won't be in more trouble if the school has a word with the bullies.

[EvilPie]

Cheers for responses guys.

As it happens, when I called my cousin the day before his dad was actually around and kinda got the gist of the conversation we were having. My cousin's parents looked into my cousins facebook and are going to take it up with the school.

Cheers for advice, would have been rather funny to get big baz to tell the kid he was gon t'eat te lad's intestines

Disasteraments and not the way forward.

Can't believe I'm saying this, but agree 100% with the green frog.

Yup.

Stay the f**k out of it unless the young fella asks for help.

He won't thank anyone for making him a laughing stock and unpopular.

Unless he seems unhappy then leave it with him to sort in his own way. It'll probably make him stronger in later life anyway. Wrap him in cotton wool and he'll just get the piss taken out of him for being a mummy's boy.

[GreekStein]

Well I just spoke to my uncle and they saw his facebook and some of the remarks really are pretty shocking. He had a feeling something might be up but my cousin, Michael, who's also pretty mature said he wasn't scared of these guys but it obviously upset him and that he wasn't the only one they did it to.

My uncle asked what Michael wanted him to do about it, if anything, and Michael said deal with it through the school - the bullies are unlikely to know who reported them as there's a handful of people they do it to.

[StuartHopkin]

Well I just spoke to my uncle and they saw his facebook and some of the remarks really are pretty shocking. He had a feeling something might be up but my cousin, Michael, who's also pretty mature said he wasn't scared of these guys but it obviously upset him and that he wasn't the only one they did it to.

My uncle asked what Michael wanted him to do about it, if anything, and Michael said deal with it through the school - the bullies are unlikely to know who reported them as there's a handful of people they do it to.

If thats what he wants to do then fair enough.

I would guess there would be a fair chance they will find out it was him though.

Do you know if we are we talking violent bullies or just all talk?

[GreekStein]

Well I just spoke to my uncle and they saw his facebook and some of the remarks really are pretty shocking. He had a feeling something might be up but my cousin, Michael, who's also pretty mature said he wasn't scared of these guys but it obviously upset him and that he wasn't the only one they did it to.

My uncle asked what Michael wanted him to do about it, if anything, and Michael said deal with it through the school - the bullies are unlikely to know who reported them as there's a handful of people they do it to.

If thats what he wants to do then fair enough.

I would guess there would be a fair chance they will find out it was him though.

Do you know if we are we talking violent bullies or just all talk?

I don't know about the other kids but they've not laid a finger on my cousin. He's just turned 13 and is my height, like 5'10 which is pretty damn tall for his age which may be why they haven't got physical with him.

[EvilPie]

Well I just spoke to my uncle and they saw his facebook and some of the remarks really are pretty shocking. He had a feeling something might be up but my cousin, Michael, who's also pretty mature said he wasn't scared of these guys but it obviously upset him and that he wasn't the only one they did it to.

My uncle asked what Michael wanted him to do about it, if anything, and Michael said deal with it through the school - the bullies are unlikely to know who reported them as there's a handful of people they do it to.

If thats what he wants to do then fair enough.

I would guess there would be a fair chance they will find out it was him though.

Do you know if we are we talking violent bullies or just all talk?

I don't know about the other kids but they've not laid a finger on my cousin. He's just turned 13 and is my height, like 5'10 which is pretty damn tall for his age which may be why they haven't got physical with him.

Blatant "I'm harder than 13 year olds cus I'm so big" brag.