I am not the one saying what people should do to be content, it is you. The very statement you made is one that is very black and white on this. Amusing that you post this up, and then accuse me of been too black and white.
I genuinely don't understand what you're saying here. I never said anything along the lines of "to be happy do X" I just said how I personally interpreted something. I also didn't accuse you of being black and white, or if I did then I didn't mean too, tbh I'm not even 100% sure what it means in this context.
I have not made as much as I could have done, have not progessed as far as I could have done, but what I have done is enough to make me content. Your "belief" is that I should never be content, but I am. You simply do not have to have everything you want, or could want in the future, to be content right now. I am not saying I am as content as I could be, but I am content enough for me.
That's not my belief at all. My belief is that anyone can be happy in any circumstance and that the drive in life is effectively to find the ones that suit you, one of my best friends from school is one of the most talented, ambitious people I know, he was going to be a writer (I literally had no doubt ever he'd do this) he was making great progress writing short scripts then he got this girl pregnant and now he works for a company selling pest control devices. I always think "what a waste of talent" but when I speak to him he's so happy, his drive in life now is to provide for his daughter, he told me that whereas he doesn't like his job all that much he just thinks about his family and he loves it. That in my mind is as equal to success as anyone living in a £10m house and driving a bentley.
ME right now, I have no responsibility, no family really, no commitments so my life is devoted entirely to self improvement, making myself better, richer, all self obbssesed, all very well all the over 30's gathering round for story corner saying "You'll see things differently when you're X age" I'm sure I will (I really hope I will lol) but right now I couldn't give a fuck about what I'm going to think in 10 years!
Over time I have realised that you carry on aspiring to better things, you do realise you could have done things better, but all that doesn't mean you shouldn't be content with where you are now. Beating yourself up because life hasn't gone as well as you hoped, or that you haven't achieved all the things you could have is a pretty negative way to look on life. It is the very way I used to be when I was younger.
This is cool to read, to me it's interesting how people's lives have shaped them, I'm still early in mine so i've barely been shaped but thinking back to moments that effectively influenced loads of parts of my life always intruiges me to find out what happened to other people to get them where they are.
And if this saying was indeed your "opinion on life", then I think you have a problem, but it clearly isn't. It is just a badly worded throw away piece of prose you liked a bit. I wouldn't get so attached to it that you view someone dismissing something you liked as drivel as a personal affront to yourself. I am sure your opinion on life must run a bit deeper, as does mine.
Yh, just my opinion on this one aspect of an overall massive picture, I could drivel on my pages lol, but we've had enough of that in Honeybadgers diary
Cheers.
Unambitious and Ignorant of Cambridgeshire.
lol this made me laugh
Fwiw I didn't call you ignorant or unambitious (actually, I kind of did lol) but I don't think either of those things, nor really mean to say them! I just thought one sentence was ignorant, I wasn't offended and have enjoyed the debate immensely, no hard feelings goes without saying
I'm actually grateful that you responded and will consider the fact that you took the time to engage in debate with me as a respectful compliment, which is certainly mutual! *thumbs up*
Cambridge? Really? Didn't you wanna live anywhere better?
I find analysing people motives really interesting, looking at someone and trying to figure out why they are where they are. I do this at the poker table all the time, starring t someone thinking "why did he come to play cards tonight" Why poker, why not something else" What is he looking to get form being here" and so on.
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