Prose from a Poshboy

[kinboshi]

A man with limits will often be content, a man with no limits should never be.

So we should have limits to achieve contentment? Not sure that's right.

I remember accidentally registering for a limit tournament and somehow making it to the final table.  Was the longest 4 hours of my life, and I definitely wasn't content.

[AlunB]

A man with limits will often be content, a man with no limits should never be.

So we should have limits to achieve contentment? Not sure that's right.

I think it's one of those things people say to themselves to stay sane. 'Why am I not happy despite all my wealth and success? Oh wait it's because only simple people are happy.' That kind of thing.

[jakally]

A man with limits will often be content, a man with no limits should never be.

So we should have limits to achieve contentment? Not sure that's right.

I think it's one of those things people say to themselves to stay sane. 'Why am I not happy despite all my wealth and success? Oh wait it's because only simple people are happy.' That kind of thing.

You are assuming that happiness, and contentment are the same thing.

[SuuPRlim]

I remember that quote from a fridge magnet lol

I really like it. Thing with these things is it's how you interpret the meanings of them, so there is no right or wrong, here is how I always read that fridge magnet

If you have a limit to what you can achieve then you have a goal, which is to get to "the top" once you're there you will be content, as you have achieved the maximum you could, if you're have no limits, then you'll never reach "the top" as there is no top. One day you'll stop trying, that it itself is a limit, and hopefully you can be content then.

Happiness and contentment are not the same thing, I'm extremely happy but not remotely content with myself, and hope never to be either (at least not for a long time) as it'll mean I've stop trying to be the best I can be and achieve the most I can achieve.

[aaron1867]

I don't like the thought of playing online 100%, but now that I think about it, it's got to be better than almost any other job I could realistically get. It's all very well saying I wouldn't play, but would I really set an alarm for 7am to get up, shower, wear a suit, drive or commute somewhere, sit at an office being told what to do all day? Doesn't sound like a good switch from being in my pants at 1pm

Perhaps such a little shame you think this, because you don't need to think this way,

I would imagine you have lots of spare time and spare cash, you have the potential to open up many different avenues and perhaps create your on business or along those lines.

[AlunB]

A man with limits will often be content, a man with no limits should never be.

So we should have limits to achieve contentment? Not sure that's right.

I think it's one of those things people say to themselves to stay sane. 'Why am I not happy despite all my wealth and success? Oh wait it's because only simple people are happy.' That kind of thing.

You are assuming that happiness, and contentment are the same thing.

You are assuming I meant that as a direct comparison, rather than an illustration of a point.

[AlunB]

Happiness and contentment are not the same thing for me, I'm extremely happy but not remotely content with myself, and hope never to be either (at least not for a long time) as it'll mean I've stop trying to be the best I can be and achieve the most I can achieve.

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[jgcblack]

Grass is always greener.

Interesting documentary went to millionaires of different types and sources.  To see the effect of money vs achievement vs circumstances.

Iirc they found that only people who earned or worked their money had any form of sustainable happiness.  Money has literally nothing to do with happiness.  Those with it dont need it, those without it use it to U their problems on.

I know my potential vs my actual earnings has a big gap in it.  But that's because I've been lazy my whole life.  However nowadays im trying to set goals, achieve them and worm my new goals into the 'grand plan'.  With regular achievements and continued improvement I hope to keep myself happy as I go along.

the good thing is you have the money and freedom to 'do something' for a few months.

[Doobs]

I remember that quote from a fridge magnet lol

I really like it. Thing with these things is it's how you interpret the meanings of them, so there is no right or wrong, here is how I always read that fridge magnet

If you have a limit to what you can achieve then you have a goal, which is to get to "the top" once you're there you will be content, as you have achieved the maximum you could, if you're have no limits, then you'll never reach "the top" as there is no top. One day you'll stop trying, that it itself is a limit, and hopefully you can be content then.

Happiness and contentment are not the same thing, I'm extremely happy but not remotely content with myself, and hope never to be either (at least not for a long time) as it'll mean I've stop trying to be the best I can be and achieve the most I can achieve.

This really is unadulterated drivel.

I only started becoming happy when I realised that everything was never going to be as good as it could be.  Things aren't ever going to be perfect, and the sooner you get it then the sooner you can settle and enjoy what you have.

[AlunB]

Money has literally nothing to do with happiness. 

Nonsense.

[Dubai]

At the risk of repeat quoting Jim Young

"Anybody who tells you money is the root of all evil doesn't fucking have any. They say money can't buy happiness? Look at the fuckin' smile on my face. Ear to ear, baby. Your friends are shit. You tell them you made 25 grand last month, they're not gonna fuckin' believe you. Fuck them! Fuck 'em! Parents don't like the life you lead? 'Fuck you, Mom and Dad."

[cambridgealex]

I'll risking adding a "douche strike" to our house chart, but I find money links fairly closely to happiness. At the start of this diary I had a net of like £3k and was reasonably happy, enjoyed life etc, but I got miserable easily on downswings, there was more pressure on me to win, I was under-rolled, couldn't do what I wanted (eg go on trips/player bigger) and was sort of stuck in a rut playing 50/1 and bowl comps.

Now I am really comfortable, I am a lot happier, because money enables me to do all the things I want and I am relaxed about everything, I don't NEED to win this month, or next month, I can take brutal beats or nasty downswings much easier and I still absolutely love winning and get a massive buzz out of everything. Money enables me to help out my mates, stake people, give to charity, drive a nice car, go and see friends and family whenever I feel like it etc etc loads of things.

[rfgqqabc]

Grass is always greener.

Interesting documentary went to millionaires of different types and sources.  To see the effect of money vs achievement vs circumstances.

Iirc they found that only people who earned or worked their money had any form of sustainable happiness.  Money has literally nothing to do with happiness.  Those with it dont need it, those without it use it to U their problems on.

I know my potential vs my actual earnings has a big gap in it.  But that's because I've been lazy my whole life.  However nowadays im trying to set goals, achieve them and worm my new goals into the 'grand plan'.  With regular achievements and continued improvement I hope to keep myself happy as I go along.

the good thing is you have the money and freedom to 'do something' for a few months.

I've read from a few sources about this. People who suffer from intensely happy/sad moments invoulentarily revert to their base level of happiness after a period of time. I.e, both a lottery winner who has a jump in happiness, and a man in a car accident who becomes paralysed will eventually become as happy as before. I think this period is 6-18 months.

I think people feel pressured to not act shallow and say money equals happiness. When in reality, having money reduces limitations and allows people to do what they want, which in turn increases happiness.

[SuuPRlim]

This really is unadulterated drivel.

I only started becoming happy when I realised that everything was never going to be as good as it could be.  Things aren't ever going to be perfect, and the sooner you get it then the sooner you can settle and enjoy what you have.

I really couldn't disagree with you more. In fact what you've described as settling and enjoying what you have, is what I would call un-ambition,

Thing is though it's just all your own personal perception and how you want to live and what makes you happy. So it's actually impossible to say one is X, the other thing is Drivel etc. it's all just what you think and believe.

There is a chance I'll agree with what you've written above in X years, but right now I don't. If anything saying that one person's opinions on life are drivel is actually pretty ignorant. It's impossible to be right or wrong with this stuff.

[SuuPRlim]

Money basically = more choices.

The more money you have in general the more choices you have, you can on holiday 3 or 4 times a year, you can drive X or Y or Z car, you can invest in this company, or start this business, you can send your children to these schools, and so on. All sorts of materialistic or important decisions you'll have more choices for.

I think it's fair to say for most people the more choices available the happier you'll be, life will be easier and so on but some people genuinely don't care too much and are pretty happy without. It's just who you are and what makes you happy.

Money makes me happy, but I dont have a family or anything of actual real substance in my life, so I think that's pretty stnd.