Inappropriate Jokes and blonde

[Acidmouse]

All stuff like that should have NWS (Not work safe) tag on it, so people can read it if they want or not as the case may be.

[ACE2M]

but sometimes the private joke is made in public and shouldnt be taken as offensive by anyone over hearing.

 

[booder]

( A warning about the "mass mind control" machine.  You will all think the same thoughts as me  )

please GOD...................................NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[turny]

how far are we going to take this?

if people werent so sensitive and learnt to take things in the light heartedness it was meant then everything would be fine.

i have a big nose, im fat and im rubbish but anyone calling anyone else any of these on blonde doesnt offend me.

the itb have a member whose ginger who we all call ginger freak.
we have an asian member we call "gandhi" or we refer to him as our token asian.
we have a member whose fat who we call fatboy.
we have a bald person we call baldie
and me personally for having a big nose am often called jewboy.

not one of us is offended by this and in a way we are having a go at the politically correct brigade for not allowing us to do and say what we like.

what it proves is that we are a close bunch of friends who are not offended by harmless jokes n banter.

I can see a couple of those being taken in offence to be honest.

my post states that none of the people are offended.

ok then ace so why only a couple and not all of them?
are some discriminations in your eyes worse than others?

If you were jewish and had a big nose would you be happy about being called Jewboy?

for all you know i might be jewish and no i wouldnt and am not offended by this

The point is that other Jews might be.

and so might some fatties,gingers,asians and baldies.

so why highlight the jew part of the post??

none are worse than any of the others.

I agree. I didn't highlight the Jew post, Ace2M did.

If so many can be offended by this type of stuff then it has no place IMO. Just because one group of mates finds it non-offensive, that doesn't mean 3000 blondes will.

and il think you will find if you check my posts that i have never used any of these remarks in any of them.

[The Baron]

ITB, I never said you have but what I am saying is that banter in your home game cannot realistically be expected to be widely accepted on a forum with over 3000 diverse members.

The fact that your mates find it non offensive doesn't mean everyone on here will.

[Bongo]

but sometimes the private joke is made in public and shouldnt be taken as offensive by anyone over hearing.

 

I have trouble agreeing with that, besides which people overhearing something is far different to communicating it via a public medium and asking those who find it distasteful to ignore it.

[tikay]

As to how blonde resolves this, I still don't know. The Mods, including me, still have to come to a decision.

But whatever decision they come to, I will still do my own thing.

I don't THINK I've ever, in jest or otherwise called someone gay, but I sure never will from here on in. In jest, or otherwise.

I shall continue to berate Couch Kev for having dodgy mince-pies, Iron & the Scottish Department of blonde for being Scots, Dewi & Co for being nanny-goat-ish, Robert for being an Estate Agent, Ariston & Flushy for being hopeless.

And I shall encourage others, by example, to do the same.

But that's not to pre-judge the "official" outcome.  I shall simply do my own thing here, & I am sure most of you, now realising the impact their words can have, will do likewise.

so tikay are you saying that it is worse to call someone gay than insult someone for there race or for there size?
or is it just that it was a blonde who was offended by the gay jibes that took offence?

I am not sure what point you are making there, so I can't really answer it.

It's not a case of "worse" or "better" though. It's the case that, in life, I don't like insulting or offending people. It's as simple as that. I dislike a few people, not many, admittedly, but I don't go round insulting them, I just keep my own counsel.

And blonde is, whether we like it or not, effectively something I started, which, in many ways, reflects Dave & my ideals. And most of the blondes seem to think along the same lines, because that's how life works - like-minded folks tend to gather together.

sorry tikay. the point im trying to make is that you say you will not be refering to anyone as gay in the future but are happy to berate kev iron and the scottish boys for there disabilities and race.

just wondered why u feel comfortable with that and not comfortable with calling someone like flushy who lets be honest looks and moves a bit camp  "gay"

Ahh, I understand now. You have to spell these things out for me, or use shorter words!

I throw jibes at Iron & Kev & the Scots & Welsh, & Estate Agent Robert & Hopelss flushy & Aristion in general because.....

I KNOW they like it really. Same as when Couch calls me "Pops" or Grandad - really, I see it as a term of endearment, & I know they mean no harm. If it really - REALLY - offended others, by race, or disabilty, or hopeless at pokerish, I would cease to poke fun at the Scots & Welsh & Ironside. If I honestly believe ANYONE was offended by it, I would cease immediately.

When I did my first Poker Night Live, there were numerous complaints from the Scots, who thought I was being serious. I apologised on their forum, & we - those who complained, & me - soon became good friends, & I Post there frequently now, & they don't see me as a bad person any more. But I've never once poked fun at the Scots or Welsh on PNL since, fact. I have used a little creativity in my (attempted) humour on PNL, & I get by with it.

[stallyon]

i once worked for a company where this girl from thailand began calling herself the company thai (tie)...before long people joked with her about it and lo and behold, her father found out. forced his daughter to leave the company and tried to sue the company.... she was a good worker and hung around your neck very well  

[Tractor]

Wow, interesting thread.
I would like to make a few comments on this subject but i have a tourny to get to and to make a proper post on this topic is going to take more than a couple of minutes.
One quick thing, I ran a gaming website with a very busy forum about 4-5 years ago...And this is the hardest thing to get right but i feel Blonde has such a good spirit over moding will never happen.


Jason

[The Baron]

but sometimes the private joke is made in public and shouldnt be taken as offensive by anyone over hearing.

 

I have trouble agreeing with that, besides which people overhearing something is far different to communicating it via a public medium and asking those who find it distasteful to ignore it.

Thanks Bongo - that's what I was trying to say.

No offence intended ITB.

[turny]

ITB, I never said you have but what I am saying is that banter in your home game cannot realistically be expected to be widely accepted on a forum with over 3000 diverse members.

The fact that your mates find it non offensive doesn't mean everyone on here will.

hence the reason i dont use that type of banter on here.
but that doesnt mean that if i thought i new someone well enough on here to know that they wouldnt take offence to banter of that nature then i would use it.

as i say i refer to a friend as ginger freak so when im in public your saying i cant call him this?

[The Baron]

ITB, I never said you have but what I am saying is that banter in your home game cannot realistically be expected to be widely accepted on a forum with over 3000 diverse members.

The fact that your mates find it non offensive doesn't mean everyone on here will.

hence the reason i dont use that type of banter on here.
but that doesnt mean that if i thought i new someone well enough on here to know that they wouldnt take offence to banter of that nature then i would use it.

as i say i refer to a friend as ginger freak so when im in public your saying i cant call him this?

My best friend is Chinese and I am half Asian. We call each other some quite shocking names. In public however I curb it, as it may cause offence to those around me. I would never dream of repeating any of it on here as it would DEFINATELY cause offence.

[turny]

As to how blonde resolves this, I still don't know. The Mods, including me, still have to come to a decision.

But whatever decision they come to, I will still do my own thing.

I don't THINK I've ever, in jest or otherwise called someone gay, but I sure never will from here on in. In jest, or otherwise.

I shall continue to berate Couch Kev for having dodgy mince-pies, Iron & the Scottish Department of blonde for being Scots, Dewi & Co for being nanny-goat-ish, Robert for being an Estate Agent, Ariston & Flushy for being hopeless.

And I shall encourage others, by example, to do the same.

But that's not to pre-judge the "official" outcome.  I shall simply do my own thing here, & I am sure most of you, now realising the impact their words can have, will do likewise.

so tikay are you saying that it is worse to call someone gay than insult someone for there race or for there size?
or is it just that it was a blonde who was offended by the gay jibes that took offence?

I am not sure what point you are making there, so I can't really answer it.

It's not a case of "worse" or "better" though. It's the case that, in life, I don't like insulting or offending people. It's as simple as that. I dislike a few people, not many, admittedly, but I don't go round insulting them, I just keep my own counsel.

And blonde is, whether we like it or not, effectively something I started, which, in many ways, reflects Dave & my ideals. And most of the blondes seem to think along the same lines, because that's how life works - like-minded folks tend to gather together.

sorry tikay. the point im trying to make is that you say you will not be refering to anyone as gay in the future but are happy to berate kev iron and the scottish boys for there disabilities and race.

just wondered why u feel comfortable with that and not comfortable with calling someone like flushy who lets be honest looks and moves a bit camp  "gay"

Ahh, I understand now. You have to spell these things out for me, or use shorter words!

I throw jibes at Iron & Kev & the Scots & Welsh, & Estate Agent Robert & Hopelss flushy & Aristion in general because.....

I KNOW they like it really. Same as when Couch calls me "Pops" or Grandad - really, I see it as a term of endearment, & I know they mean no harm. If it really - REALLY - offended others, by race, or disabilty, or hopeless at pokerish, I would cease to poke fun at the Scots & Welsh & Ironside. If I honestly believe ANYONE was offended by it, I would cease immediately.

When I did my first Poker Night Live, there were numerous complaints from the Scots, who thought I was being serious. I apologised on their forum, & we - those who complained, & me - soon became good friends, & I Post there frequently now, & they don't see me as a bad person any more. But I've never once poked fun at the Scots or Welsh on PNL since, fact. I have used a little creativity in my (attempted) humour on PNL, & I get by with it.

 

exactly tikay it all boils down to how sensitive an individual is.

so what im saying is if you feel kev is fat n eats to many pies and you call him tubby why would you consider someone who thinks flushy is camp and acts like a women gay as being offensive?

[ACE2M]

but sometimes the private joke is made in public and shouldnt be taken as offensive by anyone over hearing.

 

I have trouble agreeing with that, besides which people overhearing something is far different to communicating it via a public medium and asking those who find it distasteful to ignore it.

Thanks Bongo - that's what I was trying to say.

No offence intended ITB.

You are correct bongo.

[Royal Flush]

like flushy who lets be honest looks and moves a bit camp

 


Seriously though none of these comments offend me, and like Tikay says they are all good fun, i enjoy it because it means i get to dish some back!

However, it clearly does offend someone on here, that someone is a very clever and senible person, we know he is not overly sensative and is friends with a lot of people on here. He is clearly not a drama queen. It then becomes apparent to me that we should try to cut it out.

I think junglecat is coming up with a list of alternative insults for me....